Jennifer Lopez got engaged to former MLB player Alex Rodriguez this March, and they seem to be very happy and in love. But before meeting Alex, Jen had no luck in love life.
After her disastrous first marriage, J.Lo started dating dancer and choreographer Cris Judd. They met on the set of Jen’s Love Don’t Cost a Thing music video and fell in love immediately. Their whirlwind romance led to a proposal, and the two married in 2001, just a month after getting engaged.
Sadly, their marital happiness didn’t last. Jennifer filed for divorce after just 9 months of marriage and reportedly had to fork out $14 million in a divorce settlement.
But was the marriage really as bad as the press tried to present it? Cris kept silence for a long time, but then finally decided to tell his side of the story.
How Cris remembers his marriage to Jennifer
In an interview with Us Weekly, Cris, who has since remarried and welcomed a child, finally talked about his highly publicized marriage and subsequent divorce from J.Lo.
He admitted that the marriage wasn’t a walk in the park, but it wasn’t because he or Jen had a problem. Cris recalled:
You know it's very tough. Your privacy is breached. You're no longer a normal person.
[Our wedding] was a circus. I think several people got arrested trying to climb up a mountain… trying to sneak in. We actually rented the airspace.
The marriage crumbled under the pressure of always being followed and always being watched. When you are married to a superstar, privacy is a luxury! Cris said:
You kind of have to take it and accept it and embrace it. Once you stop fighting it, it smoothes itself over. If you try to keep that privacy, it drives you nuts and that's why people break.
As to why they couldn’t save the marriage, Cris doesn’t blame himself or J.Lo. He said:
Unfortunately, it just didn't work out.
What does Jennifer think about it? Apparently, she holds no grudge against her ex. After the divorce, she described Cris as “a friend” and “an amazing person”.
It didn’t work out with Cris because it wasn’t the right time and the right state of mind. Jen said in an interview with Harper’s Bazaar:
For me, the relationship journey has been very up and down. But it didn’t have to do with anybody else but me—it was about me figuring out me. Until you learn to love yourself, you can’t completely love [someone else] in a way that is pure and true.
These days, both Jennifer and Cris are happy with other people. Props to them for handling their split gracefully!