'My Mother-In-Law Tampered With My Birth Control': Mom Furious To Discover She's Pregnant 3 Months After Giving Birth To First Child

September 12, 2019 12:26

In a perfect world, your in-laws will be there to support the decisions you make with your spouse and be there for you when you need it. But many people are not this lucky.

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There have been several cases where relatives butt in to give unsolicited advice and even pressure a couple into doing things they would not have done otherwise. This woman's story is a heartbreaking example.

A conniving mother-in-law

A mom shared a story on Reddit about how her husband's mother was so determined to make them have another child that she resorted to questionable means to make it happen.

When the couple welcomed their first child, a baby girl, the 20-year-old mother and her 22-year-old spouse were very happy. But this wasn't the case for her husband's family who was hoping they would have a male child. Evidently, they wanted the couple to have a boy who would carry on the family name.

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Not long after she gave birth, the poster's mother-in-law began asking when they would try for another baby. For the most part, the new parents ignored her but things got complicated when, three months post-partum, the young mom was pregnant again.

She wrote that she and her husband were very careful as they used protection but she later learned from her sister-in-law that the mother-in-law messed with her birth control.

She (sister-in-law) calms down a bit, and through her tears tell me that my MIL has been poking holes in our condoms pretty much since we came home from the hospital.

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The mother-in-law often came over to take care of their baby for about four hours while mom got some sleep which meant she was unsupervised in that time and that could have been when she carried out her plans.

The new mother was understandably shocked and upset upon hearing how far her mother-in-law would go to ensure her son had a baby boy.

I’m so angry I don’t know what to do.

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She eventually decided on setting cameras in her home in hopes of catching mother-in-law red-handed since she (MIL) didn't know at the time that the poster was already pregnant.

Dealing with an overbearing in-law

Many women can relate to what this poster has written. But how do you cope when your in-laws are so overbearing that they make life difficult for you?

According to ScaryMommy, if you can stand it and their actions are ignorable, then feel free to pretend the in-laws do not get to you. Kill them with kindness if possible and maintain a sunny disposition.


However, if things are too difficult to handle, you may want to have a discussion with your spouse so they can set necessary boundaries to prevent future drama.

Dealing with in-laws isn't always easy, but surrounding yourself with supportive people and having a thick skin will help you get through.