'My Mother Is Pregnant At 46': Daughter Begs For Advice As She Discovers Her Mom Is Pregnant From Man Who Left Her

October 16, 2019 14:29

Having a baby after 40 doesn’t sound as shocking as it used to be. The number of women who get pregnant later in live increases each year.

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With modern technology, it’s possible to safely deliver a healthy baby after 40, yet a woman’s fertility rate decrease significantly with time and later pregnancies come with big risks.

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But what should a woman do when she gets pregnant and her partner lives her? In this unfortunate situation, it’s important to focus on the baby and surrounded yourself with people who care about you.

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However, pregnancies can be unexpected even with women after 40.

Crazy Reddit story

A 22-year-old woman is in a desperate need for advice. She turned to Reddit to ask people to help her find a way to support her 46-year-old mother who is expecting.


The young woman shared that her mother spend the night with the man she loved and got pregnant but the guy didn’t feel the same way so he left her.

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The 22-year-old said she’s worried about her mom who not only has to deal with having a baby at her age but also with a broken heart.


The young woman shared that she has 2 brothers, one of whom has severe autism and the other is 8 years old, so she can’t rely on their support. She wrote:

How can I make sure she’s okay? How would she even care for a baby? It’s only me and the dad that know so I think she’s kinda hoping I’m gonna be there for her, which of course I will. I just need a little help myself. I work nights (as does she) so I feel this may make things harder.


People offered some advice


Your mom had 3 kids; it's a fair bet she knows what to do with a baby. While it's not ideal, it's not that unusual for women to give birth at her age anymore. The best thing you can do is ask her how you can help, let her know you love her, and encourage her to take good care of herself, no matter what decision she makes about the pregnancy.


Nobody's asked how she's going to balance an infant and a disabled adult son. Sure, she's had three kids already and knows how that goes, but very few people know how to raise an infant and also care for a disabled adult. I would start brainstorming ideas and plans around that, especially if your brother still lives with your mom. It's a little less pressing if he's in a residential home. If she does ask for your help in a significant way, I actually think it's more likely she'll ask for help with your autistic brother, not the wee newborn.


the best way to find out what you need to do to support your mum is to ask her what she needs. it might be something as simple as running errands, taking her to appointments and taking on a few more chores around the house.


You are a wonderful daughter, OP. Just be there the best you can. Your mom is 46 and an adult. She will deal with all of this. Just be mindful of her and sometimes spoil her a little to show your support.

It’s a very difficult situation to be in but we hope the young woman will find a way to deal with it and help her mom without jeopardizing her own life. We wish her and her family the best of luck!