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8 Signs Of A Poisonous Mother-In-Law: How To Protect Yourself And Deal With Home Tyrant

December 3, 2019 11:06

We meet our partners, fall in love and hope that we’ll live happily ever after, but whilst we may get to choose the "love of our life", unfortunately, the same cannot be said for the in-laws that come with them.

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The truth is that the relationships between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often the most tenuous one. While not all of mothers-in-law are wicked, many do drain the life out of you with all their toxicity and destroy your family life.

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Luckily, there are some signs of a toxic mother-in-law that can easily help you recognize if there is such a woman in your life.

Signs of a toxic mother in law

1. She’ll never admit it when she’s wrong.

She'll never admit being wrong, and she will never apologize for anything.

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2. No boundaries in her demeanor.

Toxic mother-in-law often shows no respect to your separate lives. She may also be dictating personal decisions such as wedding plans, bedroom decisions, names of your progenies and even your career.

3. Never misses and opportunity to let you know you are not good enough for her child.

Negative comments on your appearance or your life choices is a normal thing for her, as you are never too good for her brilliant son!

4. Controls your parenting.

She behaves like you are an infant in motherhood and the endless list of Don’ts is her new nickname.

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5. She won’t respect you at all.

You could have the cleanest house in the world but she’ll find some non-existent speck of dust to point at and complain about.

6.She’ll be a different person to the rest of the world.

In front of everyone else, she’ll be full of charm and she’ll portray herself as a loving mother to her children. But in reality, she's a controlling and toxic person, who knows no boundaries and limits.

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7. Takes control of your partner.

She controls all her kids to ensure that they never do anything that she doesn’t want them to.

8. Criticize daughter-in-law’s cooking

Toxic mother-in-law believes she's perfect in everything she does, so you will never be good enough for her. Your cooking skills will always be criticized as well as your parenting choices and other spheres of life.

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Dealing with a toxic mother in law

When you have a toxic mother-in-law, you need to stand your ground and make sure you’re setting the boundaries.

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Don’t let your mother-in-law push your buttons and make you feel bad. You can’t be the victim all the time and let difficult mothers bully you into a place where you feel upset or uncomfortable.

Overall in dealing with toxic in-laws, having support from your partner is most important.

And one more important thing...Whatever your mother-in-law potion of this toxicity, beware for you are the next mother-in-law!


The material in this article is for informational purposes only and does not replace the advice of a certified specialist.

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