This is one of the nastiest tricks truly toxic people use to validate their abusive behavior, to distract you from evaluating the situation, or to coerce you into ceding unreasonable requests and demands. It involves adding a third person’s opinion or interests to the situation in order to disorient you and disguise or misrepresent something. However, it doesn’t change the nature of manipulators and toxic people, who never care about anyone else’s opinion or interests but their own – no matter what they say.
Triangulating children and other family members to fool you into thinking you are doing something for them, and not for the manipulator are certainly tricks that deliver. However, these are usually only mean lies, just as toxic people ‘reporting’ what others say about you or how they agree with the abuser against you. Even if such things are not fabricated statements, the ‘third party’ is simply being manipulated as well.
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8. Walking on eggshells
Toxic people will do everything they can to isolate you from your friends and family, to sabotage your goals or activities and things you enjoyed before – because they want to be the center of attention at all times. Such people will destroy everything else in your life or strongly associate it with disrespect, intimidation, guilt, and abuse. They will punish you for any disagreement or not complying with their demands, and will have you walking on eggshells as you never know what mood they will be in, why they are dissatisfied with you, and what might provoke their anger. Like Pavlov’s dogs, the victims of manipulators are “trained” over time to become afraid of the abuser’s reaction to everything and of doing something that sets them off. Toxic people, abusers and narcissists do this to ensure that you are focused only on how you are going to please them and meet their next expectation.