Despite Years Of Abuse From Her Mom, Sarah Ferguson Managed To Raise Her Children With Love

Date June 6, 2018 18:17

Sarah Fergusson, Duchess of York made a humbling revelation in 2012, about her struggles with low self-esteem while growing up. She came clean during a visit to the Child Mind Institute. The Duchess said she was ridiculed by the British press who called her “fat, frumpy Fergie” and “The Duchess of Pork.”

I lost all my self-esteem, I lost any confidence I had, I lost myself, completely.


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Earlier in 2011, she famously broke down on television while recounting how her own mother, Susan Barrantes, had contributed to the self-esteem issues she had growing up. According to the Duchess, her mother was emotionally abusive and would often say hurtful things to her with little or no provocation.


She said her mother once looked at her and said 'You've got the sign of the devil. I'm going to beat that devil out!'. And this was just one of many times that she endured abuse. The Duchess said her mother was not big on showing positive emotion as this was the trend in her own family.

When she used to hit me because I didn't sit on my potty or wouldn't eat, a little vein would come up on the centre of my head near my red hair.


She also blames her mother walking out on the family on herself and said on the show that she saw herself as 'pointless', 'emotionally bankrupt', 'unlovable' and 'worthless'. These revelations were made in the six-part reality show Finding Sarah, made for the Oprah Winfrey Network.

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It took the Duchess a long time to cope with her self-esteem issues, but she eventually found her peace. In 2015, she wrote a heartwarming letter to her late mother who died in 1998. In the letter, the Duchess made it clear that she was past holding on to anger and had forgiven her mother for the abuse.

I look back now and thank you, forgive you, and love you more. You gave me the strength to look at life differently. I am convinced I would never be the strong person I am inwardly had I not had to come to terms with the sense of abandonment.

The letter was one of many included in author Lisa Erspamer's book A Letter to My Mom which was released in celebration of Mother’s Day in the US the same year.


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It seems time healed the wounds of her childhood as Duchess went on to get married to Prince Andrew and had two children, Princesses Beatrice and Princess Eugenie, who by all standards turned out pretty nicely. In 2017, Princess Beatrice spoke highly of her mother to Hello!, giving her praise for her parenting skills.

I’m inspired by her ability to give, even when she’s going through something hard. Her grandmother always said, ‘When you feel bad about yourself, go out there and do something for somebody else.’ That’s an incredible motto that my family has always lived by. My mother is just remarkable.


The Duchess continues to be a loving and devoted mother to her children. Thankfully she learned from the mistakes her mother made and chose to raise her own kids a better way, ending the cycle of abuse.

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