“Please Fix Him”: Michelle Obama Shares How Marriage Counseling Opened Her Eyes On Her Relationship

Date December 20, 2018 10:21

Sometimes it may seem other people have a perfect marriage, and you start thinking that you are probably doing something wrong and can’t build such an ideal relationship. But it turns out that every marriage needs hard work from both partners, and Michelle Obama is ready to provide details on professional counseling.


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The former First Lady opened up her personal experience with marriage counseling while appearing on the Tonight Show. Michelle revealed that, initially, she was planning to go to the therapy in order to 'fix' Barack Obama, as she considered herself to be perfect. When she entered the room the first thing she said was:

Dr. X, please fix him.


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But after the consultation, she realized there are plenty of things she had to work on to make their marriage better. Obama understood her husband was not the only one who had to do everything, and that relationships require hard work from both partners:

But marriage counseling was a turning point for me, understanding that it wasn't up to my husband to make me happy, that I had to learn how to fill myself up and how to put myself higher on my priority list.


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Michelle inspires others not to give up, but try to work on relations. She said many people want to have the ideal marriage, but don’t realize how much effort it might take:

There are a lot of young people who look at me and Barack ... and they think, 'Oh, I want those #relationshipgoals. But I want young people to know that marriage is work. Even the best marriages require work.


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She added that everybody has hard situations in life, but it doesn’t mean we should immediately break up with our partner:

I don't want young people to quit the minute they have a hardship. Because I always say, 'Look, if you're married for 50 years, and 10 of them are horrible, you're doing really good.' Anybody would take those odds.

Michelle Obama revealed that together with her husband they are still finding each other after so many years of marriage. They are having romantic dinners and try to spend as much time together as possible.

The former First Lady gave people a good lesson, teaching them how to build the perfect marriage, and explained that it requires hard work from both partners. She is such an inspiring woman!

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