Dyan Cannon Had A Mental Breakdown After Her Marriage To Cary Grant Ended: "I Went Nuts. I Lost It"
January 16, 2019 13:52 By Fabiosa
Dyan Cannon and Cary Grant were in love with each other, but their marriage was short-lived.
The two actors had been dating for a few years before they tied the knot in 1965, when Grant was 61 and Cannon was 28. But the age difference didn’t matter to the young actress – she was smitten with Grant and was ready to do anything to make him happy.
The couple’s daughter, Jennifer, arrived in 1966. Unfortunately, by that time, their marriage had already started to fall apart. One of the reasons why it didn’t work was Cannon’s constant attempts to please her husband at any cost while giving up her own wishes and aspirations. They divorced in 1968, and the actress said in one interview, years later:
[Catering to Cary] was the most important thing in my life - more important than working, more important than anything. That was the big flaw. I pushed aside everything that I'd desired to make him happy.
Cannon recalls how she “lost it” after the divorce
After a few years of building her life around her husband, it was hard for Cannon to accept that their marriage wasn’t working. She didn’t take the divorce well.
Speaking to Fox News after her memoir about their married life came out, the actress recalled:
I went nuts. I lost it. It’s so hard to actually realize that now because I’m so well and so happy and so satisfied now, but I lost it.
She went on to describe an incident that illustrates how unwell she was:
I climbed out a window in the middle of the night in the pouring rain thinking I was doing something very natural.
Cannon ended up in a mental institution after that and had to spend a few months there.
The exes remained on good terms
Even though the separation was painful for both, Cannon and Grant were on good terms after the emotions subsided. In a 1988 interview with Redbook, Cannon mused:
Even though there result of those years, we had a wonderful daughter together. Cary was very special. I loved him with all my heart, with all my soul, with all my mind, and I will always be grateful that we married. I learned a lot from him. They weren't wasted years.
Cannon described her ex-husband as a great father, and she never tried to prevent their daughter from spending time with him. Some part of her loved him even after they separated, and his passing in 1986 affected her deeply. In an interview with Reuters, the actress recalled:
I was amazed at how I mourned him. I couldn’t believe how hammered I was by his death, how deeply I felt his loss. I loved him so dearly, but some of that love had to get pushed down through all the pain.
Their marriage was far from perfect, but they had a wonderful time together, and it’s something Cannon can't forget. Not that she wants to, anyway.