Dan Gasby Slammed For Having A New GF While His Wife, B. Smith, Is Struggling With Alzheimer's

Date January 30, 2019 16:06

B. Smith, a restaurateur, host, author, and former model, once was the most successful African-American woman in her field.


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When she was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease in 2013, she and her husband, Dan Gasby, were upset but not too surprised, as she had been showing some typical signs of Alzheimer’s for a while.

An uphill battle

Fighting Alzheimer’s, the most common form of dementia, can be frustrating knowing it’s only going to get worse. Gasby told Winston-Salem Journal in 2017:

It’s tough. She’s the greatest thing that ever happened to me and it’s tough watching this transition.


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Anyway, Gasby has been by his wife’s side and is her primary caregiver as her condition continues to worsen. But he doesn’t want his wife’s disease to consume him and his whole life.

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Gasby has a new girlfriend, hits back at critics

Caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s isn’t easy and can be very exhausting. Gasby still loves his wife and takes good care of her, but as he himself needs support, he started dating another woman, Alex Lerner.

He would have gotten his wife’s approval first, but she’s at a point where she can’t respond.


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Lerner helps Gasby take care of Smith, and she told The Washington Post that she enjoys it. The woman has a room in Smith and Gasby’s home and often stays there with the couple. Gasby’s daughter from his previous marriage, Dana, told The Post she’s happy for her dad.


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When Gasby and Lerner made their relationship public in December, many people expressed indignation, saying it’s wrong to have a new partner when your spouse is still alive, even if she has lost awareness of what’s going on. Gasby responded to shamers in a Facebook post, telling them in no uncertain terms they have no right to judge him:

26 years of love and devotion

Smith and Gasby have been married for 26 years. So when Smith was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s nearly six years ago, her husband was devastated.

But he knew he would stay, and they would make their remaining good time full of positive experiences. Gasby said on Today back in 2015:

The first thing I think about is to try to create the best possible moments we can have. If I had to do it all over again, I would have been happy for her to choose me as I would have been to choose her.


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He may have found a new love, but he’s still devoted to his wife. She may not know it, but she sure can feel it.

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