"We Don't Date, We Court": 5 Strict Rules The Duggars Follow In Relationships And Marriage

Date June 26, 2018

If you have ever watched 19 Kids and Counting or Counting On on TLC, then you’re probably more or less familiar with the Duggars' rules regarding relationships and marriage. If you are a progressive, they may seem too strict and old-fashioned... Anyway, read on if you want to find out how dating and marriage is done, Duggar-style!

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5 relationship & marriage rules in the Duggar family

1. Girls must dress modestly.

The Duggar girls can’t wear anything that is too revealing (not that they want to, anyway). Their clothes must cover the shoulders, cleavage, and hips. But a woman doesn’t have to dress sexy to look attractive, does she?

2. Getting-to-know-you phase must be supervised.

There’s no such thing as dating for this family; they don’t “date,” they “court,” as Josh Duggar told PEOPLE. Before the engagement and wedding, the Duggar girls can spend time with their suitors only in the presence of their family. During courtship, no physical contact other than an innocent side hug is allowed.

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3. Hand-holding is OK after they are engaged, but kissing isn’t.

After a guy proposes to a Duggar girl, the couple are allowed to hold hands. But they still have to wait for their first kiss until the wedding day.

4. Divorce? Don’t even think about it!

These days, about 1 in 4 marriages end in a divorce. But for the Duggars, divorce is strictly off the table! The family are devout Christians, and for them marriage is a sacred union made in Heaven, and it cannot be dissolved.

5. When the husband wants to get intimate, the wife must submit.

Michelle, the mother, said on Today:

There will be times you’re going to be very exhausted. Your hubby comes home after a hard day’s work, you get the baby to bed, and he is going to be looking forward to that time with you.

Anyone can fix him lunch, but only one person can meet that physical need of love that he has, and you always need to be available when he calls.

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