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A Devoted Father But An Unkind Husband: Cary Grant's Ex-Wife, Who Was 43 Years Younger Than Him, Said She Had Fallen In Love With His Image

Date July 30, 2019 10:08

The late Cary Grant got almost as much attention for his personal life as he did for his professional achievements.

Grant had a pretty tumultuous love life. He was married five times, first to Virginia Cherrill, then Barbara Hutton, and Betsy Drake. He then went on to marry Dyan Cannon with whom he had his only child Jennifer. Finally, he married Barbara Harris.

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Both Jennifer and Dyan have come out to share their own respective views of the late movie star. And from their story, it seemed they talked of two different men. This is because, while Jennifer remembered Grant as a loving and devoted father, Dyan saw him as an unremarkable husband.

In the book 'A Reminiscence Of My Father, Cary Grant' by Jennifer, Grant's daughter expressed how much she loved her late dad. Even though she was only a year old when her parents split up, Jennifer still enjoyed happy memories with him.

In fact, he made such an impression on her that she chose to name her son (Grant's grandson) after him.

Every daughter looks up to her father but the fact is we were incredibly close... I saw him so much more than the child of divorced parents might expect.

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These all sound like glowing words about a great man. But Cannon's experience was different. In her book 'Dear Cary', Grant's fourth wife, who was 28 when she married the star, then 61, had a few words to share.

She expressed her understanding that Jennifer had a different relationship with her dad because, despite the marital troubles, they both tried to be good parents to their daughter.

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Everything was fine when she and Grant first started dating, Cannon noted. But after they got engaged, things started to change. According to her, he would constantly criticize her appearance. And by the time she became pregnant, he physically withdrew from her.

But when Jennifer was born, Grant was totally smitten. He was devoted to making his daughter happy but the marriage wasn't getting better. It was so bad that Cannon once had to face her husband squarely and asked if he still loved her.

I eventually asked Cary, "Do you love me just as I am now?” I was met with silence. It was like my insides had fallen out. I felt empty.

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They eventually decided to get a divorce. While speaking on the marriage, Cannon said she had "fallen in love with his image" and expected that to make her happy. But it was impossible.

Jennifer mentioned that she had read her mother's book and on how she felt about Cannon's portrayal of her loving dad, she said;

It’s her point of view on Dad. She was his wife. I was his daughter. The relationships are quite different.

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She mentioned that it was sad her dad was no longer around to give his own point of view of the marriage since he never wrote an autobiography.

Despite the different accounts given by the two women, one thing their stories both have in common was that they reflected a side of the actor that the public didn't see.