"It Was My Second Chance": Why 14-Year-Old Oprah Was Glad Her Child Died Shortly After Being Born
November 28, 2018 14:18
November 28, 2018 14:18
As Oprah said about being childfree:
When people were pressuring me to get married and have children, I knew I was not going to be a person that ever regretted not having them, because I feel like I am a mother to the world’s children.
But while Winfrey proudly talks about not having kids, not many people know that she actually gave birth in her life, but the story of it is incredibly tragic.
When Oprah was 14 years old she got pregnant as a result of continuous sexual abuse. This is the secret she wanted to take to her grave, but one of her relatives sold the story at the beginning of the 1990s, and so, Winfrey decided to come clean:
Only my family and closest friends knew. I would tell no one until I felt safe enough to share my dark past: the years I was sexually abused, from age 10 to 14, my resulting promiscuity as a teenager, and finally, at 14, my becoming pregnant.
She kept this secret from her father, with whom she lived in Nashville at the time because he believed there was no greater shame than to have a daughter with an illegitimate child. And so Winfrey kept silent until she gave birth and had her child died at the hospital. Oprah didn't even have a chance to bring it home.
Ultimately, Oprah took her child's death as a sign that she needs to make something of herself and decided to go back to school. She looked back at that tragic time:
I don't even know what I thought the plan was going to be...You're having a baby out of wedlock, your life is over. So when the baby died – the baby was never brought home from the hospital – when the baby died, I knew that it was my second chance.
Only Oprah could turn such a devastating situation around and get inspired to achieve greatness. Incredible spirit!
Of course, not everyone is as strong as Oprah, and some people are deeply affected by the loss of their child. It's natural to feel guilty, angry, or powerless, embrace the emotions and let others know about your needs. Don't shut down from the world and accept help from anyone who's ready to be there for you.
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In addition, eventually, don't deny yourself being happy, it's important to look ahead and remember only positive things about your life.