Jada Pinkett Smith Shares Wise Words On Infidelity: "It's Not Your Fault. Stop Making It Your Fault"
August 23, 2018 16:35 By Fabiosa
Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith are an incredibly interesting couple. They've been together for over two decades and during this time, dealt with many things, including ups and downs in their careers and infidelity rumors. Despite having the vigilant public eye on them, Will and Jada stuck with each other, and always reminded us how strong their family is.
On of the reasons the couple was able to stay together for so long is their willingness to change for each other, and that's the lesson Jada wants us all to learn.
When Will and Jada first got together, he was still married to his first wife, Sheree Zampino. Pinkett Smith even revealed that she has moved into his house before the divorce was finalized in 1995.
However, Zampino didn't hold grudges against Jada. Will's first marriage was doomed, so his first wife realized that Jada would become a stepmother to their son, Trey Smith. The two women worked on their relationship from the beginning, and Jada even invited Sheree to her show, Red Table Talk, where they discussed the challenges of having a blended family. In Pinkett Smith's words:
I thought it was important to have that conversation because she was my entry point to motherhood. I was co-mothering with her. At that particular time, before [having a blended family] was popular, before it was even an idea, we were trying to create something that we had never experienced.
At the start of their relationship, Jada was only 24 years old, but she was already displaying the wisdom that only grew in her with years. And now, she's sharing it with all of us.
A lesson from Jada Pinkett Smith
Considering how much people speculate about the nature of her relationships with Will Smith, Jada decided to take to her Instagram to talk to her followers about the infidelity, and whether it's worth to work through it. She started by offering words of comfort:
To my queens out there that have been cheated on by their men: it’s not your fault, stop making it your fault. To my kings out there that have been cheated on by their women: stop making it your fault. Yes, women cheat too.
Most of us come into relationships with a bunch of traumas and high expectations. Traumas and expectations can be a painful mix because it’s our traumas, and the false beliefs they create, that keep us from offering our best to ourselves and others. We are all a bunch of open wounds slamming into each other all day ... everyday. Successful relating is not for the weak at heart. This is why I believe... relationships ARE a spiritual endeavor🌸 #selfmastery
Pinkett Smith proceeded to emphasize the importance of being willing to work on yourself. She noted that the people we choose to be with should be ready to recognize their mistakes and what led them to it:
This is about self mastery, it's not even about what's going on in the relationship. Make sure you're with someone who is interested in mastering themselves, and everything that they come with.
Jada finished by saying she understands the pain of infidelity, but a strong relationship is a complex process. She encouraged everyone to "make sure you're with someone who's worth it," and these are her words to live by.
Product of their hard work
Frankly speaking, Jada knows what she's talking about. Just look at her marriage with Will: they've been married since 1997, but started dating in 1995. So at this point, the couple has been together for more than half of their lives, as noted by Jada herself.
Such commitment requires a lot of work and understanding, which is mostly Jada's achievement.
What Jada is trying to teach us all can resonate with many people. Although some may disagree with her about the approach to infidelity, no one can deny her bravery and willingness to work through the problems of her marriage.