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Tina Campbell And Husband Transformed Their Marriage After Infidelity: How You Too Can Do The Same

Date February 11, 2020 14:52

Tina Campbell's decision to accept her role in her husband's extramarital affairs may appear controversial. But she has passionately defended herself a few times while also letting the world know that her life is all the better for it.

On finding out

The Mary Mary star once opened up on the Steve Harvey Show about how she discovered her husband, Teddy Cambell's affair.

She revealed that someone reached out and told her after they made sure the information was correct. And she also said that the person Teddy was having an affair with at the time was someone very close to her.

Tina Campbell confessed that she spiraled out of control, "destroyed three cars," and was very angry. A clip from the reality show revealed just how far into the extreme Tina went as she tried to process Teddy's betrayal.

In the video, her husband saw one of his cars which Tina had crashed and expressed how sad he was to see her struggling this way.

It was an incredibly difficult time for the couple but Tina decided to forgive her husband. When asked why she chose to allow the cameras to keep rolling rather than cope through this pain privately, the reality star revealed that she wanted her story to be a lesson and an inspiration for others.

Taking partial blame

Tina Campbell was beyond devastated to learn that Teddy actually had affairs with different women. This would have been the nail on the coffin for many marriages but the couple chose to work through it.

One of the ways Tina was able to forgive was to accept responsibility for her own part in the issues that arose in the relationship. She shared that she was "selfish" and was much too focused on the kids and her career.

Speaking to Ebony, she went on to add that she "emasculated' her husband and understood how that impacted him negatively.

I believed he was screwed up in the head and had some things he needed to deal with.

Moving on

The process of moving on from Teddy's infidelities didn't happen easily. It was a tough journey but the couple decided they wanted to fight for their marriage.

According to their website, their choice to "honor their vows" was a defining moment in the union. And while, for Teddy, this meant attaining a new level for spirituality, Tina said she realized who she really was when her "marriage fell apart."

In an interview with JetMag, Tina explained that one of her goals was to show people what "the process of forgiveness looks like" as she hoped to be an inspiration for others.

She also shared the following:

  • She described the experience as "empowering" and worthwhile.
  • She revealed that she contemplated suicide but her kids were what motivated her to keep going.
  • She credited her faith for helping her survive the difficult times.

Can your marriage survive infidelity?

When a spouse cheats, it shakes a marriage to its core. This can sometimes ruin what was once a beautiful relationship. But what happens if, like Tina, you don't want to give up on your marriage after an affair?

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Here are some tips that can help.

  1. Mutual devotion: If you hope to rebuild your marriage after an affair, it takes mutual commitment from both parties. If one person is unsure, the process is unlikely to work.
  2. Understanding the why: According to Relate, another step is to understand why the affair happened. The cheating spouse should know what pushed him/her to do so and address that root cause.
  3. Recommit yourselves: Relationship expert John Gottman also shared one important step referred to as attunement. Here, the couple gets to know each other again and start rebuilding the marriage from the ground up.
  4. It takes time: Moving on from an affair won't happen overnight. And in many cases, it won't happen without professional help. It's crucial to understand the hard work it entails and prepare for it.

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Despite the fact that infidelity is a common problem in many marriages, not all couples can survive it. In many cases, it leads to betrayal, heartbreak and ultimately divorce. It took a lot of courage for Tina and Teddy to let the world see their struggles. And whether or not you agree with their decision to fight for their marriage, we have to applaud them for being so open about it. Hopefully, their union continues to be joyful and drama-free.

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