"I Smashed My Kids' IPads": Kirstie Allsopp Destroyed Her Sons' Tablets To Teach Them A Lesson, And People Online Are Furious
Kirstie Allsopp disciplined her kids by smashing their iPads
What should parents do when their children are glued to gadgets and refuse to use them as instructed? Kirstie Allsopp, a TV presenter and mom of two boys, did something that few parents would do: she took her sons’ iPads and smashed them on the table.
Kirstie Allsopp reveals she smashed her children's tablets in front of them because they kept breaking her rules for using them.— Jeremy Vine On 5 (@JeremyVineOn5) September 10, 2018
Harsh, or a good bit of parenting there?@KirstieMAllsopp | @TheJeremyVine | @stormhuntley | #jeremyvine pic.twitter.com/EFB4uctUmq
Speaking to Channel 5’s Jeremy Vine, Kirstie explained that she did it in response to her sons using the tablets to play games exceeding their allowed screen time:
In June I smashed my kids' iPads, not in a violent way. I actually banged them on the table leg.
There is a game called Fortnite and another PUBG and I decided... we had made all sorts of rules and all sorts of times when we said you can't play them and all those rules got broken and in the end I said: 'Right that is it, I have to physically (break them).
Kirstie’s decision sparked a heated online debate
Most people online criticized Kirstie’s actions, saying this was not a good example of behavior for her kids to follow. Some people slammed the mom for being “selfish”, as she could have donated the tablets. Here are some of the comments:
Nice to be so well off that you can do this. Why not confiscate them or donate them to a children’s hospice?— Tina Sparkles👌🏼💜♿️ (@Prettytwitten) September 10, 2018
Still defeats the point, there was absolutely no need to smash them. Sounds like she has anger issues, and doesn't exactly set a great example to her kids. pic.twitter.com/tTs9D5aaHF— Craig Thompson (@RogueBaboon57) September 10, 2018
Smashing her kids' tablets is not exactly a good example to set is it?— Robert Barton (@WineLovingBear) September 10, 2018
How about confiscating them instead?
Even Jo Frost, the Supernanny, reacted:
@KirstieMAllsopp Thank you for your honesty however yr demand for respect with yr intimating actions would of now taught yr children exactly the opposite of what ultimately you were trying to acheive.— Jo Frost (@Jo_Frost) September 10, 2018
If u are up for receiving parental advice?would be happy to help - Jo Frost.
There were, however, some positive and supportive reactions:
As a child, my dad accidentally shot his father in the eye with a spud gun loaded with some corn. Grandad said nothing, just beckoned dad to his shed, gestured for him to hand over the gun, hammered it flat with a mallet and handed it back. Shocking, but Dad got the message.— Kirsten Burrell (@KCBtobim) September 11, 2018
It’s refreshing to see some good old fashioned parenting where actions have consequences. Normally the rhetoric is along the lines of “video games / iPads are evil and hurting our children” - which is an arguement made by people who don’t understand the gaming industry.— Adam Pearson (@Adam_Pearson) September 10, 2018
Good parenting to me— maxine mitchell (@maxine_1952) September 10, 2018
Good on you, well done Kirsty!!!— Elizabeth O'Neill (@Elizabe29773139) September 10, 2018
In the end, the trolling got so bad that Kirstie actually decided to quit Twitter:
Why smashing iPads as a way to discipline kids is counterproductive
It should be up to Kirstie what to do with her property – that’s a fact. But was her discipline method effective? It’s highly unlikely.
First off, parents should show the behavior they want their kids to model on. An angry outburst out of frustration is not something children can learn from.
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In addition to that, punishments should be proportionate to misdemeanors. It would have been more reasonable to just take tablets away and put them in a place the kids can’t reach.
Also, if there are rules in place, you should enforce them. Say, if your child won’t stop playing a game on his iPad after his screen time is up, don’t let him test your limits. If you had said you would take the gadget away, you should follow through with that.
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Moreover, it’s vitally important to reinforce positive behavior with praise, and it applies to children of any age. Say, if your child voluntarily put the gadget away and did chores or homework or whatever else he was supposed to do, don’t forget to praise him. Rewards also work and they should be proportionate to good behaviors.
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Your children learn more from your behavior than from your words, so set a good example for them to follow!
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