"He Was My Dream Baby": Mom Lost Her Infant Son On His First Day In Daycare And Started A Campaign To Prevent More Tragedies

Date September 19, 2018 11:27

NY mom lost her baby son on his first day in daycare

Most new mothers want to spend as much time with their babies as possible. Sadly, many moms have to go right back to work just weeks after they give birth, as they can’t afford to stay at home with their babies. Many parents have no choice but to leave their very young children at daycares.


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New mom Amber Scorah picked a daycare that was just two blocks away from her office. On July 13, 2015, Amber left her 15-week-old son Karl at the daycare for the first time, thinking he would be safe there.


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Two hours later, the mom returned to the facility to breastfeed her son during her lunch break. What she saw there was a scene from every parent’s worst nightmare. Her sweet baby Karl was lying on a changing table, unresponsive. In an interview with Us Weekly, she recalled:

His lips and the area around his mouth were blue, and the daycare owner was frantic, trying to revive him.


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Unfortunately, attempts to bring Karl back to life were unsuccessful.

It transpired that the daycare was unlicensed and its workers weren’t trained to administer CPR. The facility was immediately shut down.


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Thinking about how things could have gone differently, Amber blamed herself for leaving her baby in daycare too soon. Amber and her partner, Lee Towndrow, decided to use their tragic experience for the good cause and started to campaign for paid parental leave in the United States.


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A year after Karl’s death, a new baby brightened Amber and Lee’s lives. In June 2016, Amber gave birth to a girl whom the couple named Sevi. The girl is healthy and happy, and her parents love her dearly, but they still miss their son.


Mommy to these two cuties #KarlIves #sevidays

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How high is the risk of SIDS for babies in daycare?

One study found that 20% of babies who lost their lives to SIDS died in daycare settings. Two thirds of these deaths occurred in home daycares, most of which are unlicensed and lack properly trained staff.

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Some people may argue that paid parental leave would be a burden on U.S. economy. But if this policy can lower the risk of babies dying in daycares, it’s worth all the money.

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How to administer CPR to infants

Karl’s life could have been saved if workers at his daycare knew CPR. Every parent and caregiver hopes they will never have to use it, but it’s still important to learn first aid for babies, including CPR.

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To learn how to perform CPR correctly, it’s best to take a class with a trained professional.

This video, provided by St John Ambulance, shows how to administer CPR to babies:

But, as helpful as videos and written instructions are, it’s best to take a class in CPR to learn how to do it right. It may save your baby’s life one day!

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