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Barber Gave "Bad Old Men" Haircut To His Misbehaving Boy And Offered Other Parents To Try. What Do Experts Have To Say?

Date July 11, 2018 15:03

Would you punish your child if they misbehave? If so, how would you do it? Or, maybe, you think that the punishment is not a good option? Russell Fredrick created a special haircut called “Benjamin Button” to teach his misbehaving son a lesson and saw immediate results. The cut involves shaving the head so that the child looks like a balding senior citizen. Many supporters say the new form of punishment is an excellent choice for kids who want to act like adult.

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New form of punishment

Fredrick, the father of three, invented the cut three years ago, when he tried to take the disciplinary measure on his then 12-year-old son, Rushawn. Surprisingly, it worked even better than intended. The boy’s grades became better instantly, and Rushawn started listening to the dad.

Happy with the results, the dad even promoted other parents to bring their misbehaving kids to his A-1 Kutz in Snellville and give them “Benjamin Button special” for free!

Jailed barber

However, not everyone approves such kind of punishment. In the UK, in a similar case, a barber who gave a 10-year-old boy a humiliating haircut was sent to jail! Abdulrahim Omar wanted to simply teach the boy a good lesson after the latter had tried to use a razor himself. Razors are indeed extremely dangerous, especially for youngsters. However, it seems that everybody is focused on the emotional damage the boy received due to the “punishment.” According to prosecutor Alex Radley:

The young man was proud of his hairstyle and felt that it was important to him. He suffered psychological and physical harm.

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Abdulrahim was sentenced for 8 months in jail after pleaded guilty. The man says he fully admits he made a mistake and is very sorry for his actions.

But what do experts have to say?

According to experts, any punishments that imply shame, embarrassment, or humiliation to teach discipline can only do worse for your children. Not only they can damage the child-parent relationship, but can also cause increased anxiety, aggression, and even severe depression in the future.

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Andy Grogan-Kaylor, an associate professor of social work at the University of Michigan, says that positive thinking has a better effect on a child’s character. Every parent should understand that damaging punishments are only temporary solutions, which can lead to horrible consequences. Here are some tips on how to discipline your child:

  1. Try to focus on the behavior that you want to see more of rather than your child’s mistakes.
  2. Set clear rules you want your child to follow and be reasonable when explaining them.
  3. Listen to your kids and discuss their behavior openly.
  4. Reward your child for good behavior and take away privileges (like playing computer games) for the bad one.
  5. Be an example for your child. Model the behavior you want to see in your child.

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What do you think about the punishing haircut? Would you try it on your child?

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The material in this article is for informational purposes only and does not replace the advice of a certified specialist.

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