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Steve Harvey Sheds Light On Why Men Cheat And Offers Viewers Valuable Relationship Advice

Date January 21, 2019

The phenomenon of cheating is probably as old as humanity itself. As much as we don’t want to admit it, it happens often and for many different reasons. Some even say that predisposition to cheating depends on your partner's zodiac sign!

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Trustify carried out a poll about cheating, and it showed quite a predictable pattern: men and women's reasons for cheating aren't the same. Of the men and women who admitted to infidelity, 23% of the men said they cheated because of a lack of physical satisfaction, and 28% of the women said they cheated because of a lack of emotional satisfaction in their current relationship.

Since cheating is common, many people – especially those who have been cheated on – want to know why it happens and how to deal with it. Popular host, comedian, and author Steve Harvey has some answers.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Steve Harvey speaks on the issue of cheating

Steve Harvey, who authored Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, a book which tackles important issues in romantic relationships (he knows quite a lot about it, as he himself has been married three times and has many kids), spoke on GMA and took questions about the problem of cheating from viewers around the country.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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When asked about how to know if a man is cheating, the host responded:

If there’s an attitude change, you know, if your man doesn’t care anymore about the intimacy – whether you have it with him or not, if it doesn’t make a difference to him, he’s indifferent to it, that attitude adjustment is serious.

When asked for advice on how to deal with flirting, Harvey said it's best to “laugh it off and go home” and also said that going through your partner’s phone or emails searching for evidence of cheating is a 'no-no' as it's a violation of privacy and “if he [or she] is cheating, you’re going to find out [anyway.]”

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To the woman who asked why men in power think they can get away with cheating, the host explained that cheating is a universal phenomenon and it’s just that men in power have more resources to cover up their infidelities.

When asked if the phrase “once a cheater – always a cheater” is true, Harvey’s answer was unambiguous. He said that it’s not a true statement:

“People grow, people get better, people learn from their mistakes, people move on. People discover what went wrong before and learn how not to make those mistakes again.”

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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What to do if you’ve been cheated on

Finding out that your partner has cheated on you is, without a doubt, very painful. But here’s one thing you shouldn’t do in this situation: make rash decisions about the future of your relationship.

Before you decide whether to cut your partner loose or work on saving your relationship, here are a few important questions you need to examine:

  • is your partner interested in saving your relationship and what is he/she willing to do for that?
  • was the cheating a one-time occurrence or was it systematic?
  • how did you find out about the infidelity? Did your partner confess about his/her indiscretions, or did someone else tell you?
  • what is at stake if your relationship ends? [This one is especially important if you have kids together]

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Learning about your partner’s infidelity elicits a whirlwind of emotions, but you should let them subside before you make a decision. If you decide to work on saving the relationship, it’s best to seek the help of an impartial professional, such as a marriage counselor.

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