Two Things You Might Say To Your Daughter That Will Make Sure She Never Feels Beautiful Ever Again
January 16, 2019 10:42 By Fabiosa
For any girl, a mother’s words are priceless as they give comfort, instill confidence, and express the much-needed love that is necessary for personal growth and happiness.
Sadly, sometimes, a mother’s tongue can turn sour, making her words the most painful thing one can ever go through since while the hurt might not show on the outside; horrible scars will be left inside.
The thing you should never say to your daughter
When it comes to your daughter, always be keen what you say about them and particularly, issues that are related to your own or her appearance since regardless of your intentions, they will be affected as adults.
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1. Saying what you don’t like about your own appearance around your child
It is no secret that no matter how old we are, we always want to look and feel beautiful and often enough, it is easy to say out loud what we dislike about our own appearances. According to psychologists, a mother’s words hold power over their child since they might be tempted to do or replicate what their ‘role models’ say or do.
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Thus, as a parent, it is critical to realize that you play a central role in shaping your daughter’s positive body image and if you are sensitive about your own appearance, they will grow up with the same insecurities.
2. Giving appearance-related compliments to your daughter
Well, while girls might replicate body image perceptions from their mothers or elder siblings, their dads can also play a significant role in affecting their self-confidence through the compliments they give them.
Experts advise that telling your child they are ‘pretty’ is not enough, as such compliments might indicate that you like some parts of her appearance and this is harmful to their developing body image.
Go further and say 'Pretty what?' She's pretty strong, pretty talented -- things we can talk about that are not appearance based.
What should you do?
So, to ensure that your words do not become destructive to your daughter you should avoid any critical comments about your own body, those of others, and desist from proposing diets and weight loss to them.
Instead, try to be open with your child by having conversations about her changing body and any other aspects she might be curious about. When the communication channels are fluid, you will be able to help them understand that change is part of puberty, and that media promoted images are not necessarily real.
This way, they will realize that they do not need to be pressured about beauty standards and instead, they should be happy in their own skins. Ultimately, your child will grow up knowing that everyone is beautiful and that ones’ body size, looks, or shape do not matter, especially at a young age when change is just natural.