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A Child Growing Up Without A Father: Is It "Morally Wrong" For Women To Do Solo-Parenting?

Date May 24, 2019 17:23

Parenting is like two wheels of a car: the perfect balance is only achieved if both sides are functional. However, has modern times faltered this notion, and is it actually more feasible for women to raise their kids alone? A mother's love is infinite, but can it substitute father's protection?

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It's not a secret how messy and exhausting solo-parenting can be for a woman. Performing the whole gig all by yourself does have some unique pros and cons. Disadvantages will include having no absolute back-up, answering the kid's questions about his/her father, people will talk, and the most ultimate one — loneliness.

On the bright side, single moms have no worries about a needy husband. They also get the front seat to never miss a thing about their child.

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Is it selfish?

After being divorced for the second time, the songster, Cheryl has revealed her wish to have another child. She already a son with former-husband, Liam Payne. The X-Factor judge is now considering a sperm donation to make her a mother. Her decision has sparked a debate that was discussed on Good Morning Britain — Is solo-parenting morally wrong?

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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In Trisha Goddard's opinion, it is actually empowering. Women in strong positions who don't like to mourn over lost partners can choose this route. She justified it by condemning the ideal standards of society where we fantasize a perfect family for a child. While both parents' love is expected for a kid, the reality can be different for each individual.

Tips to ace solo-parenting

No matter how much we put into its acceptance, solo-parenting is still an ordeal. Here are some tips by First Cry to make it easier:

  • Mentally prepare yourself before-hand;
  • Meal plans are a savior;
  • Do grocery to stock in large amounts;
  • Wise choose where to work on your child, don't obsess to better him/her overnight;
  • Make time for special outings each week;
  • Reward yourself generously;
  • Don't sleep late;
  • Try to have low expectations;
  • Ask for help with your connections;
  • Make cautious compromises and be sturdy at times.

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In the future, we can see more cases of women going on without a man. Dating is laborious and marriage has become unreliable. Are these reasons enough for the society to support solo-parenting and eventually adopt it?