5 Phrases You Should Never Say To Your Grandchildren: Dear Grannies, Here's The Cue!
March 8, 2019 11:12 By Fabiosa
The field of parenthood has been broadly explored. But what about grand-parenthood? This is just as important, and maybe, even more so.
Why? Because they have double the influence on the kid's life. Let's dismantle what there's to talk about!
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The generational gap has somehow disregarded the grandparents to be the immediate guardian. While their knowledge is vast, it is null in terms of time relevancy. They can teach and support just as much the parents, however, the kids stereotype them to be just outdated. Their mutual love and respect is the only foundation left for the grandparents to strengthen.
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Things not to talk about to your grandkids
While the advice works well on the kids, criticizing is greater in effect and may prove to be toxic for them. So, as a beloved grandparent, these phrases are off bounds for you as suggested by HuffingPost:
1. The weight of a child is a topic for his/her parents or pediatrician, not anyone else. Even grandparents are included among people who should not call their grand-gem, fat. You can silently encourage their healthy habits regarding the subject.
2. Never comment on their clothes choice negatively. The word 'ugly' is forbidden for grandparents. So, be a nana, not a fashion critic that your grandkid will think to be rather discouraging.
3. We get it, you are impressed with the other kid, but don't ever compare it to your own grandkid. This may hurt their self-esteem. You don't want to be responsible for that, do you?
4. It is a bad idea to say terrible things about the parents of the child in front of him/her. The kid would believe that his caretakers are neither perfect nor right about anything. This will give him/her an edge in bargaining with his/her parents. It can also confuse and frustrate the child.
5. Don't say 'never' to your grandkid as in 'you can never go there' or 'you can never do that'. It is just plain toxic. There is nothing a child would 'never' do. If you have to say it in a hazardous sense, rather use the words shouldn't.
That's what you should say instead
According to Grand Times, here's how you can make their lives better on the base of a healthy conversation:
- While talking, give them your best possible attention;
- Try not to dominate their opinions with your own experience;
- Offer to change the topic if they find your suggested subject uninteresting;
- Make yourself available when they need to talk to someone;
- Deliberately ask your grandchild to teach you something.
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The greatest childhood trauma of most kids is verbal abuse. Avoid the suggested terms and embrace the above to be the most amazing grandma/grandpa ever.
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