Stan And Phyllis' Inspiring Love Story Shows Marriage Can't Be Destroyed By Dementia
May 11, 2018 10:59 By Fabiosa
When someone suffers from dementia, they no longer see the world the way they used to. They eventually lose an ability to remember, solve problems, and think.
As a result, they completely depend on other people for basic activities of daily living. And Phyllis Feener is definitely lucky to have a loving and caring husband by her side.
This is her story
Stan and Phyllis have been married for more than 3 decades. But their lives changed in 2012 when the family received an awful news. Phyllis, who was 53 at that time, was diagnosed with young-onset dementia.
Actually, she had memory loss troubles at work. Phyllis thought it was all because of menopause.
But when she could no longer work normally, the woman turned to doctors. And it turned out it was dementia that made her forget things.
Over the past five years, her husband, Stan, has been her full-time carer. He makes every effort to ensure Phyllis gets the comfort she needs. Stan works from home so that he can always care for his wife.
His love is so strong that the couple’s daughter, Kelli Taylor, could not help but share a sweet tweet devoted to her parents. On Twitter, she posted a picture of her mom and dad and wrote a heartwarming caption that struck a raw nerve and made the post go viral:
She doesn’t always remember his name but she knows she is safe with him. If that’s not true love, I don’t know what is.
My parents have been married for 34 years. My mom is in the final stages of young onset dementia (diagnosed 5 years ago at 53). My dad cares for her full-time. She doesn’t always remember his name but she knows she is safe with him. If that’s not true love, I don’t know what is. pic.twitter.com/8oW2n4mGza— Kelli Taylor (@keenertaylor) April 26, 2018
Unfortunately, there’s no cure for the condition. Today, Phyllis’ condition is so bad she can’t be left alone. And it’s starting to get difficult for her husband to care for her well all the time.
That is why the family created a GoFundMe page to raise much needed money for further care.
Of course, Kelli’s post highlighting the strong love of her parents attracted the attention of social media users. Many people rushed to Twitter to wish the family well and share their own stories of their family members struggling with the health condition.
Here are some of the touching tweets shared
Hang in there sweet girl. My folks were the same way. High school sweethearts that took them through 50 years of marriage. Alzheimer's may have taken certain memories from her - but never did it take the love they shared. She always knew she was safe with him #missherdearly pic.twitter.com/sY1wPzeqKR— Jennifer Zatechka (@jenzat71) April 26, 2018
My mum was taken by dementia last year, she was 89 & had a great life. She was married to my dad for 67 years. Dad is 90 & has Alzheimer’s but the tragic thing is, he has no idea that the love of his life is gone! (Tho equally you could argue he’s lucky not to have to grieve?)— Ex-Carrot in London (@adders66) April 26, 2018
I applaud your father for handling it well. My mom doesn’t handle my dad very well usually 😔— treehouse (@2thinkislife) April 26, 2018
This is beautiful 💙
This story shows us that marriage can’t be destroyed by dementia!