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Past Matters! 5 Destructive Effects Of A Toxic Childhood, According To Psycologists

Date April 25, 2019 10:20

A kid's childhood relies on two factors. One is the external environment and the other is internal. They can play a vital role in shaping an individual later in life as an adult. So, what happens when these mediums get distorted for a child?

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A psychology professor, Jean Twenge from San Diego State University has deemed all smartphones and social media responsible for raising an unhappy and compliant generation. She dubbed people born after 1995, 'iGen'. Dr. Jean is afraid that the iGen are mentally fragile. Our limited interaction with our natural ways of life had delayed our development.

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Five effects of toxic childhood

Other than outside influence, internal means also have an impact on kids. Parents are responsible for shaping the default behavior of their child. If they set a wrong one, the toxicity gets carried into adulthood as a maladaptive strategy with real consequences. Psychology Today has suggested the effects of a traumatized childhood on adults. These unconscious imprints are all caused due to past struggles.

1. Always blaming yourself

Mistreatment from parents can leave a child apologetic for he/she's always been blamed. After growing up, the child will automatically utter the words 'I'm sorry' whether it was called for or not. Such an adult will lose control over any situation.

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2. Avoids any conversation that is disputable

Adults that have gone through verbal violence tends to stay away from conflicts altogether. It is an unhealthy way to maintain peace and things will fall apart soon or later. The key to overcoming challenges is not avoiding them but, is confronting them.

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3. Inability to voice their own needs

The parents' taunts are still so loud in their heads that an abused child stop hearing his/her's own voice. An adult of such cruelty doesn’t know himself/ herself well enough or see clearly enough to recognize his/her own longings or desires. This will lead to indecisiveness and overall unhappiness.

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4. No trust in one's own perspective and emotions

Adults who were gaslighted by any family member can lose trust in their own thoughts. Kids who are called over dramatic or oversensitive start to feel their emotions are not real. This self-doubt is robustly associated with depression in adulthood.

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5. May think control means having strength

Kids who were constantly conspired against by parents to be run their way may think that control is important. They later project it in every life situation and think that all things are meant to be directed. Once they don't' have it their way, anxiety takes the worse turns.

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Every human being is emotionally reactive. It's crucial for us to understand the outcomes before treating an innocent child harshly. Their minds are vulnerable and their hearts need care. Share this and spread the message of kindness.


The material in this article is for informational purposes only and does not replace the advice of a certified specialist.