Florida Mom Paid For A Stranger's Birthday Cake, And The Whole Bakery Was In Tears When She Explained Why She Did That
November 6, 2018 17:03 By Fabiosa
Unfortunately, stillbirth is a common phenomenon that affects thousands of families every year. According to the CDC, about 1% of pregnancies end in stillbirth, and about 24,000 babies are stillborn annually.
Stillbirth is just as devastating as losing a loved one of any age, and it’s important to find a healthy way to cope with the loss. One Florida woman found a very moving way to do it, and her story can’t leave anyone indifferent.
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A Floridian’s touching gesture in memory of her baby
Nick DeClemente, a customer service assistant living in Jacksonville, Florida, was at work when a woman came up to the bakery counter. The woman asked if there were any cakes on order and said she wanted to pay for one.
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Nick thought the woman was asking about someone specific, but she explained she wanted to pay for a stranger, anonymously. Tears started running down her face and she told Nick she had a stillborn baby a year before, and paying for another child’s cake would be a tribute to her angel baby.
The woman paid for the cake and thanked Nick for letting her do that. He was so moved by her gesture that he decided to share the story on Facebook. He wrote:
It was probably one of the most touching things I've seen in all my years working in retail. I hope that this lady finds peace through this tribute and that the customer receiving this gift will, if nothing else, pay it forward.
How to cope with a pregnancy loss
Losing a pregnancy is devastating, regardless of the term and other circumstances. Everyone grieves differently, and there’s no universal coping strategy that will work for everyone who’s dealing with a loss.
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Anyway, the following recommendations offer a healthy way of coping:
- Realize it’s not your fault. Women who have lost a baby often blame themselves for what happened, but this is almost never the case. Know that what happened is actually nobody’s fault, especially not yours.
- Be open with your partner about your feelings. Sometimes, in these situations it may look like men care less, but they’re just trying to stay strong for their women. Your partner is just as devastated as you are, even if it doesn’t show. It may be hard, but talk to him about your feelings.
- Talk to your close friends and family members. They may not know what exactly to say or do in such situations, but know that they are glad to help in any way they can.
- Don’t feel pressured to go back to work right away. Any decent employer would agree to give time off to a woman who has just lost a baby. Take some time off and go back to work whenever you feel ready.
- Join a support group. Find out if there’s a support group for women who lost a baby in your area or talk to women online.
- Do something in your baby’s memory. Planting a tree or having a piece of jewelry engraved with the baby’s name may work. A charitable act like the one we wrote about above may also help you heal.
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Remember, you’ll feel better with time. If the sadness and guilt are overwhelming and you feel like you just can’t function, please see a therapist.
The material in this article is for informational purposes only and does not replace the advice of a certified specialist.