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Is Your Adult Child A Full-Blown Narcissist? 6 Things You Need To Stop Doing That's Enabling Them

Date January 17, 2019 16:15

Raising children who grow up to be functional adults is a key concern for parents. So, how on earth do children grow up to be full-blown narcissists? What are the tell tales signs of early-stage narcissism that most people miss?

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Signs to be on the lookout for

According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), there are precisely 9 red flags you should be on the lookout for. And of these, a person needs to tick off only 5 boxes to confirm your worst fears.

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In a nutshell, a person who lacks basic human empathy, believes that they are inherently special and should only associate with special people, and has a sense of entitlement. Or people who require excessive admiration, fantasize endlessly about unlimited success, and exploit people pathologically are obviously a narcissist.

Should you cut an adult narcissist child off?

If as a parent you've have done your best to raise your child right and somehow they still end up becoming narcissists, this can be heartbreaking.

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The general rule of thumb is to cut toxic people off, but is it possible or best to cut off narcissistic adult children?

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Meredith Resnick author of More Than Caregiving does not readily recommend this option, but she tells Psychology Today that the power to tip the scales is solely in the hands of the disillusioned parent.

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Here's what she suggests you need to stop doing ASAP:

  1. Doing their laundry.
  2. Figuring out their schedules.
  3. Driving them to work because they are late again.
  4. Trying to be popular with them
  5. Filling out job applications.
  6. Loaning them money and sorting out their credit card bills.

Still raising a narcissist?

This is not to say a parent should no longer feel the need to help or offer to help. The power is yours as a parent to redefine the boundaries of your relationship with an adult child.

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Still raising children and wondering how to nip these tendencies in the bud? Experts recommend teaching children empathy, discouraging them from entitlement and greed, teaching them healthy self-esteem and showing them how important it is to value kindness over being tough or dominant.

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