How Will You Know If Your Child Is Transgender? Psychologists Answer
January 22, 2019 19:43 By Fabiosa
In the United States, it is no secret that more people are identifying themselves as transgender every day, with estimates placing the number at 1.4 million adults. Well, while the society overlooked this group in the past, it has transformed to be more accommodative through recognition and new policies that make life easier for transgender people.
Statistics show that compared to older people, younger adults are more likely to report their transgender identities due to the high levels of awareness and acceptance among this demographic. However, how will parents from older generations know if their kids are transgender?
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How to know if your child is transgender
According to psychologists, the key to knowing whether your child is transgender is to be observant to both their words and their actions.
1. Check out for gender non-conforming cues.
When you notice that your child consistently prefers clothes, hairstyles, or even toys that are associated with another gender, they might be transgender.
2. Notice the unhappiness when forced into the wrong gender role.
If you observe that your child always has angry tantrums when you try to make them ‘boys’ or ‘girls’ then they might have different feelings about that gender.
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3. Listen to their words.
When your child constantly refers to themselves as of the other gender, for instance, they insist to be called ‘John’ instead of ‘Jenny’, this might be a subtle sign who they perceive themselves to be.
4. Seek expert help.
If you are not sure how to handle your child's gender, seek help from a therapist or counselor who can give your child the support they need to open up about their preferences.
5. Give them time.
However, sometimes these signs are harder to pick out since some kids may not understand their gender until puberty or even later. Therefore, do not pressure them into choosing a side just yet.
There is resistance to transgender people
However, while you might be accommodative of your child’s preferred gender identity, it is critical to note that there is still resistance since some groups prefer to think that people identify as ‘trans’ just to be cool.
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For instance, an article by a conservative platform generated significant controversy when it claimed that sometimes, young people will alter their gender to impress others. The piece, which was met with a fierce admonition from the LGBT community revealed that while the society has made advances in creating an accommodative culture, there is still resistance.
Therefore, when helping your child to understand their new realities, also convey that they might face judgment from others. And most importantly, help them understand that they should never fear to be themselves since when they are true to their hearts, they will find the joy and satisfaction they deserve in life.
The material in this article is for informational purposes only and does not replace the advice of a certified specialist.