When Love Isn't Enough: 6 Reasons Why Even The Most Loving And Caring Woman Leaves
Contrary to popular belief, less than half of all marriages end in divorce. Much less, that is to say: According to the official statistics, the divorce rate for highly educated couples currently stands at 11 percent, while the figure for lower income couples is 17 percent.
Anyway, 11 and 17 percent sounds like a lot. But why does it happen? Sometimes, women leave their men even when they love them and care for them. And in many cases, a failing marriage can be fixed if you find the right approach.
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6 reasons why a loving and caring woman leaves
1. She can’t rely on you
No matter how strong and independent a woman is, she still wants to be with a man to whom she can turn for support and comfort. If a man can’t support his woman when she really needs it, she will start to doubt if she needs to stay in such a relationship.
2. Your demands for her are too high
A woman needs a man who makes her feel loved and appreciated, not a man who takes all good things about her for granted and criticizes her most minor shortcomings. A woman can try to do everything to meet high demands at first, but she will soon get tired of walking on tiptoes.
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3. She’s tired of your distrust and controlling manner
If you constantly call your woman’s fidelity into question and try to control her every move, she can get tired of your suspicions (especially if they are absolutely baseless) really fast.
4. You’re too childish
“Men don’t grow up – they just get bigger.” If this quote is about you, expect trouble in your romantic relationship. Yes, women are nurturers by nature, but dealing with a man-child can be exhausting.
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5. You’re emotionally unavailable
Emotional needs are an important component in every romantic relationship, especially for women. If a woman’s emotional needs aren’t being met, she will soon start looking for someone who’s capable of meeting them.
6. Your plans for future are too different
Most adults know what they want to do with life, and if your and your woman’s plans for future diverge and you’re unwilling to compromise to make your separate paths one whole path, the woman won’t necessarily give up her own goals just to follow you.
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A word on how to save your relationship
If you and your partner feel like your relationship is starting to crumble, but you still love each other and your love is worth fighting for, one of the best ways to patch things up is turning to an impartial professional who can give you practical advice – a marriage counselor.
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Meanwhile, here’s what you can do to start repairing your relationship:
- Your woman wants to be heard. If she has any concerns she wants to share with you, listen to her patiently and provide a meaningful response.
- Stop criticizing and blaming her. When a relationship is failing, it’s usually both parties who are at fault. Stop the blame game and start looking for practical solutions for your shared problems. It takes two to tango, right?
- Accept her minor flaws. If she gained a pound or two and her roots grew out, what’s the big deal? You can’t demand absolute perfection if you aren’t an ideal yourself, and no one is perfect.
- Think about the reasons why you are still together. Remember why you got together in the first place and what keeps you both in this relationship.
- Stop bottling up your emotions. It’s one of the most common mistakes in any relationship – you keep suppressing your feelings and then you just snap, instead of talking out any concerns right when they come up. Be open with your partner and share your concerns in a calm manner.
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Give yourself enough time to think what’s best for both of you. If staying together is worth it, do what you can to make sure the mistakes of the past remain in the past.