"I Just Want To Have A Chance To Be A Mother Again:" Woman Demands That Her Daughter Have A Baby And Give The Child To Her

October 24, 2019

What are the roles of a grandparent? The fact remains that it differs depending on families and other situations. In some cases, grandmothers make sacrifices. We've all heard some stories of grandmas choosing to act as surrogates and carrying/giving birth to their own grandchildren.

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There's a story of a young girl who gave up her son to her mother because she couldn't raise him. Hence, rather than be the boy's grandparents, they pretended to be his real parents until the boy found out the truth when he became older.

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In the case above, the young girl voluntarily gave up custody of her child. But what happens when a parent is demanding for this custody over a child that doesn't even exist yet?

Mother wants full custody

A woman took to Reddit to share how her mother has been insisting that she gets pregnant and have a baby just so she can give the child up to the mom.

The poster explained that personally, she never wanted children and that was mostly due to the bad childhood she had in the hands of her mother. However, her mother has been trying to convince her to get pregnant.

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The poster said that she was with her ex for six years and four years into the relationship, her mom started trying to urge her to have a baby with him. The lady mentioned that she was 21 at the time and her mom kept insisting that they would have "a cute baby."

I told her I was not going to do that and I didn't want children, especially not at that age.

The mom continued to express her desperation to be a grandmother saying:

Well...you and (your partner) could just have a baby and give it to me. You wouldn't have to do anything. I just want to have a chance to be a mother again and get it right this time.

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The poster said she was "disgusted" by her mom's behavior and reiterated that she wasn't going to just have a baby so that her mother can fulfill some dream to be a grandma.

Having had enough, the poster decided it was time to cut ties with her mother.

I haven't spoken to this woman in 3 years and my ex (who I'm still friends with) was always astounded as to how selfish/narcissistic my mother was/is.

Reactions

Many people responded to the woman's story and the idea of giving birth for a relative.

@DollyLlamasHuman:

I tell people never to have kids unless you REALLY want them. You made a good decision.

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@aliciacary1:

I’m so sorry you have dealt with all of this. Good job cutting off contact! It sounds like it’s the healthiest choice for you.

@TheSaltiestLurker:

My dad always wanted a son, but never got one. He has expressed this disappointment to us daughters. He told me that if I ever have a boy to give it his last name and hand it over to him to raise. I always felt he wasn't kidding.

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People generally agreed that the mom was making a very odd request of her daughter.

Having the urge to be a grandparent isn't crazy but doing so to the detriment of what your child wants becomes a selfish act. It doesn't seem fair that a woman who wants a do-over chooses to make her daughter do something she doesn't want to.

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As for the poster, she probably made the right decision to keep some space between herself and her mom. Sometimes, when you and someone can't see eye to eye, the best you can do is to let them go to save your own sanity.