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Couple Recieved A Lot Of Backlash From Family For Scheduling A Sunrise Wedding At 5:30 A.M. And Wonder If They're Out Of Line

Date October 31, 2019 11:58

Believe it or not but a lot of people prefer getting married at sunrise. There are a lot of surprising benefits such as the weather is usually better, lighting is much more flattering for the photos, and it's very intimate.

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However, most people choose to elope at such early hours of the day, but what if a couple wants their friends and family to be there?

Bride and groom want to hold a wedding at 5:30 a.m.

A Reddit user sunrisewedding asked for advice online after she and her fiancé decided to have a wedding and sunrise, but realized their guest would get mad at them and not attend.

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The bride explained that sunrise is very special for them and it would be very important to exchange vows at that time of day:

It's a very special tradition, as we have both overcome a number of personal challenges during our time together, and the symbolism of watching a new day begin is deeply meaningful for us.

However, after scheduling their wedding at 5:30 a.m. the couple started getting angry responses from their guests:

We've been getting a LOT of backlash from our families about this, who say this is way too early and we need to move the ceremony to a more "normal" time of day.

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The bride is confused as she doesn't want to change plans, but feels insecure about being the bad guy and forcing people to attend such an early event. She asked other Reddit users to share their opinion on whether she and her fiancé are out of line.

People online have strong opinions on the subject

@Bleu_Rue:

A good solution is to have a private ceremony with you and your fiancé at 5:30, and then have a second ceremony at a more reasonable time for the guests. The first one can be just the two of you reciting your vows to each other, or the two of you with a willing officiant and a handful of close friends/relatives who are willing to join. If having two ceremonies is too costly and unreasonable, then just do the first option with the two of you only, speaking private vows.

@SaintGodfather:

I wouldn't attend this wedding, that's a crazy time, however it's your wedding, so do you. Just be aware there may be low attendance...

@helen790:

That’s an insane expectation to have for people. Even if they make it there people will most likely be half asleep and not able to enjoy your wedding with you.Travel time is “under an hour” plus they have to eat breakfast, and get dressed so they’ll be waking up at like 4:30 the latest.Having a bunch of tired, grumpy, wedding guests driving to the same location at 5 AM sounds like a recipe for disaster to me.Maybe have the actual ceremony at that time with just you and your husband and then have a reception party later in the day.

@garbagebrainraccoon:

Starting at 530 and an hour away for most people? They'll need to be on the road by 430 latest, start getting ready at 330... If I were a guest Id not go. This would be a great idea for elopement or any situation where you don't expect people to join you.

And what do you think, are the bride and groom being selfish or should their wishes be a priority for everyone else?