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"Look At All The Fat": Crazy Mother-In-Law Fat-Shames Woman's Baby After Seeing Her On Ultrasound And Doesn't Stop After Her Birth

Date October 31, 2019 11:13

It's no secret that body issues often stem from childhood, more specifically parents not teaching their kids healthy body image and self-acceptance.

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What's worse is when a family member directly fat shames and insults a child, and our following story is exactly about that.

Mother-in-law fat shames her daughter-in-law and granddaughter

A Reddit user troublegummibear shared a story of her mother-in-law's (further referred to as the MIL) inappropriate behavior. It all started when the woman got pregnant and brought her MIl along to see the ultrasound. It's worth mentioning that the MIL is very athletic and obsessed with healthy lifestyle.

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To the woman's big surprise the MIL watched her ultrasound in horror and then proceeded to say to the doctor:

Is that all just...fat? Just...look at all of the fat! Look at all of the fat she got from her mother! That baby is going to be born obese! Why is no one saying anything about this?

The doctor calmly said that the child looks perfectly healthy and there's nothing out of the ordinary.

The woman gave birth to her healthy baby girl, but the MIL continued to make her life a living hell. She continuously insulted her daughter-in-law and called her obese. The Reddit user writes that she's in excellent physical form and her doctor praises her all the time.

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And yet, the MIL never believed her daughter-in-law and became obsessed with keeping her granddaughter from getting fat. She told the toddler to not eat when she's hungry if she didn't want to get "fat fat fat, like mommy," and kept saying that the baby girl's "legs are so fat. fat fat fat fat."

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The woman is afraid that her daughter will develop a terrible body image and plans on confronting her mother-in-law by saying this kind of mindset will not be welcomed in her home.

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People online share their thoughts

@AnamCara7:

Please, please, please limit her contact with your daughter. This happened to me all throughout my childhood and greatly contributed to the depression that took me down a very dark path. I’m in middle age now and still struggling. Don’t let her influence your baby that way.

@neverenoughpurple:

This is going to be an incredibly dangerous influence on your children. Full stop.

@MyDogsAreRealCute:

Your daughter is going to pick up on this much sooner than you might think, and it will shape the way she thinks about herself for a long time. If MIL isn’t going to respect that firm boundary - about not talking about YOUR weight OR your daughters - then she shouldn’t be allowed near your daughter.

@soullessginger93:

This woman... needs cut off from your daughter before she causes your daughter. The "fat fat fat like mommy" warranted you cutting her off. Hell, telling the doctor at the ultrasound would have warranted you cutting her off until an apology.She is very mentally unwell, and seems damn determined to give your daughter an eating disorder. This is all very concerning.

@kkoltzau:

It sounds like she has a body dysmorphia issue. It’s unhealthy, and you don’t need this being directed toward your children in any way. I love my gran, but her unhappiness with her body (4’8”, well under 100 pounds), affected me. I got diet books as presents, no snacks could ever be eaten around her, even though she told us to clean our plates. I know how and why- she was an orphan in a poverty stricken family, there was never enough food, and to cover up the lack she was told she was fat. It doesn’t matter. I still developed an issue with food, and at forty freaking years old, I hide snacks and junk if she’s visiting.

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