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“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her

Date November 4, 2019 13:26

New moms and dads hope that their parents will be amazing grandparents to their kids but what many find out later is that not all grandparents are “grand.” Most people realize that due to various reasons, grandparents cannot always be involved and simple asks such as baby-sitting duties, do not always get a “Yes.”

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Some young parents feel disappointed in realizing that the “multigenerational” family bond where everyone gets along can be a dream. But others understand the situation and realize that sometimes things don’t always pan out as we expect.

“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Herfizkes / Shutterstock.com

After all, it is only natural that grandparents can wish to kick back and relax after a lifetime of raising their own kids.

“Missing in action” grandma shows up after 25 years demanding care

A disappointed dad turned to Reddit to post his experience with an uninvolved grandparent. Speaking his heart out, the hurt single dad shared that after his son was born, his mother disappeared from their lives forever.

When he was just a few days old, his mother suddenly decided she doesn’t want a child anymore. She claimed she’s not ready to have a child and refused to even feed him or hold him.

“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Herspixel / Shutterstock.com

At the time, the understanding dad felt that the decision might have been influenced by his son’s grandma, who could have convinced her daughter that she was too young to be a parent. But despite her decision to leave, the dad remained hopeful she would realize her mistake and return to them.

“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of HerMaria Sbytova / Shutterstock.com

With time, he realized that he was alone and he had to contend with the sad fact that neither his son’s mom or his grandma wanted to be involved in their lives. As a single dad, he left school and worked hard to raise his son, alone.

“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of HerAfrica Studio / Shutterstock.com

But one day, without any warning, his mother-in-law showed up to their house, expecting them to welcome her with open arms. When his 25-year-old son refused her hugs, the grandma turned cold and blamed the dad.

What have you taught him if he doesn’t even say hello to his grandmother? He’s looking at me as if I’m a stranger!

“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of HerMama Belle and the kids / Shutterstock.com

Seeing your grandma for the first time after 25 years can be quite confusing and the son had many questions for her. When he asked why she had decided to come back now, after all those years, she point-blank said that her grandson owed her.

Well, I had no time to take care of you. I was a young woman too, I had my life too. And grandkids are only obligated to take care of grandparents when they’re old and that’s why I’m here.

“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of HerSabphoto / Shutterstock.com

After her response, the hurt and disappointed grandson wished her to leave the house and never return.

People empathized with the father and son

The story became a hot topic for people on the social site as many expressed their disappointment with the grandma’s behavior.

A user theorized that the grandma’s behavior suggested she might have encouraged her daughter to leave her newborn son.

When your son asked MIL why his mother left, MIL's explanation REALLY sounds like she brainwashed her own daughter to leave her son...

Another person pointed out the irony in the assumption that they were "too young" to be involved.

I particularly like the part where 24 is too young to look after a baby because you need to live your life but 25 is perfectly old enough to look after a grandparent you've never met.

“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of Her“He’s Looking At Me As If I’m A Stranger!”: Mother-In-Law Shows Up After 25 Years Demanding That Her Grandkid Needs To Take Care Of HerKekyalyaynen / Shutterstock.com

To many people, the feeling was that the grandma was narcissistic in seeking help despite avoiding responsibilities in the past.

That attitude is so narcissistic. The nerve of that woman. She only cares to see what can get out of your son; how she can use him. How she can manipulate him.

The family’s unfortunate situation reveals that sometimes, being a good grandparent requires sacrifice and even when we feel bothered or tired, we should find ways to help. For uninvolved grandparents, the story’s lesson is that the tables can turn and often than not, we will require help too.

Can you relate to their story? What advice would you give the dad and his son?

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