Yikes! Mother Of The Groom Sparks Social Media Confusion When She Wore A White Gown To The Wedding
August 12, 2019 11:44 By Fabiosa
In addition to raising children, parents also have to learn about healthy boundaries when those children become adults.
How far is too far?
According to Learning-Mind, one of the signs of an unhealthy relationship between a mother and her son is when the mother tries to be a substitute for her son's spouse.
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In other words, she hopes to be the one to replace the closeness, connection and bonding which the adult son should have with a romantic partner. This can get quite dicey especially because it means she may hold a level of resentment for her son's partner or step over the line from time to time.
What's going on here?
Perhaps this woman wishes to be a bride again. Or maybe she simply wants to share the spotlight on her son's wedding day. We may not know exactly what this mom of the groom was thinking when she decided to attend the big day wearing a white dress.
Reddit user RemiReed shared the picture on the online platform and explained in the title that this was the mother of the groom and the groom on the wedding day.
The photo had commenters confused as many agreed that wearing white during a wedding that isn't yours is uncalled for. And doing that to your son and his bride is downright insulting.
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Someone has separation anxiety. And it ain't the son.
And @farmer_palmer is wondering just how far this mom is willing to go.
Is she planning to breast feed him at the wedding reception?
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@RudyRoo2017 wishes this couple the best in their marriage;
Oooo yikes someone is so unhappy with their own life that they have to pretend to be number one woman in sons life. Godspeed to his bride.
@CatunEntanglement had another issue with the dress;
What I found so gross is that this looks like an amalgam of a communion dress a little girl would wear plus a wedding dress.
@smashkaboom also worries that this doesn't bode well for the marriage;
Yikesssssss. I truly hope this gets better and not worse post-marriage.
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A few of them alluded to the fact that the mom of the groom may be having a huge problem letting go and suspect that this may cause major issues in the marriage.
Connecting with adult children
While speaking to MNN, Clark University research professor of psychology Dr. Jeffrey Jensen Arnett said that accepting your child's partner is one way to have a good relationship with them.
It can be difficult to let go and take a backseat when your adult child finds someone else to confide in but it's necessary to give them space rather than go above and beyond to insert yourself into their relationship.
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Of course, if there's a substance abuse problem or other reasons where you fear for their safety, you should make your views known. Otherwise, accept that even though they still love you, your children have now become adults and will make their own choices.
So, don't be the mom that tries to upstage your son's bride on the wedding day. Be the proud, loving, drama-free mother who puts both her son and his spouse at ease. Everyone will be happier for it,