"This World Is A Better Place Without Her": A Woman’s Children Wrote This Cruel Obituary After Her Death

Date June 8, 2018

For many years, psychologists and researchers have sought to understand why some people who have experienced difficult childhoods blame themselves for their troubled past. Modern psychotherapy suggests that redirecting anger from self to parents or guardians may help traumatized individuals in the long run.

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However, there is the danger that relations between children and their parents may depreciate further if troubled individuals confront their parents, thus shifting blame and consequently redirecting their anger.  

A recent obituary for 80-year-old Kathleen Dehmlow, who died May 31, is a grim reminder of how much a painful childhood can affect people. Her obituary, which was published in Redwood Falls Gazette in Minnesota, was particularly alarming.

She passed away on May 31, 2018 in Springfield and will now face judgment. She will not be missed by (her children), and they understand this world is a better place without her.

The obituary was posted by her children, Gina and Jay, and it says a lot about the state of their relationship with their mother before her passing. They also cited one reason for their mean obituary. Apparently, their mother abandoned them when they were quite young and got pregnant by her husband’s brother.

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The obituary has been getting mixed reactions. Some people on Twitter offer a different account of the late Kathleen Dehmlow saying she was well-liked in her community.

Some other people who seem to have had some trauma in their childhood have no problem with the obituary, even suggesting that they would write similar obituaries for their mothers on their deaths.

The tweet has been retweeted more than 17k times already. Gina and Jay may have valid reasons for calling out their late mother, and perhaps, it has provided them some closure. Still, it is rare to see people speaking ill of the dead, even if the dead appear deserving.

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