Open When I'm Gone: A Sad Mom Found Letters Her Late Daughter Left Behind
April 19, 2018 12:37 By Fabiosa
Cindy Mathis lost her 16-year-old daughter Macy on November 25, 2016. The teenager was involved in a motor accident with her 18-year-old boyfriend, Adam Sattler, in Tifton, Georgia. But a month later, Cindy made a surprising discovery.
While cleaning out Macy’s car, Cindy discovered a pile of letters the late teen had written to her. They were a birthday gift from daughter to mother earlier in the year.
The thoughtful teenager had addressed the letters for specific moments. One of the letters, titled "Open when you miss me," read:
Hey mommy. I'm sorry that you're missing me. I hope wherever you are or whatever you're doing you're okay.
Another letter was titled "Open when you can’t sleep."
Hey mommy, I'm sorry you can't go to sleep. I hope it's not because you're worried, stressed out or overthinking. I want you to know that I love you. I feel like I don't tell you that enough and since you can't sleep and you're probably stressed about something I need you to know that I love you.
Macy also included a letter for her mother to open on her birthday.
Another letter, titled "Open when you are excited about something," contained an equally heartwarming message.
Cindy says the letters have provided her comfort since her daughter died. Sometimes, when she feels lonely or sad, she picks up one of the letters and reads. She even laughs a bit as she remembers her daughter with fondness.
Macy wrote a total of 25 letters and presented them to her mother on her 34th birthday. After she died, her mother searched the house tirelessly looking for the letters. Little did she know that Macy had them in the trunk of her car.
The teenager may be gone, but her kind words continue to shine a light in her mother’s life and will do so for years to come. Indeed, she is still around in spirit.
Outpouring of love
After Cindy shared the story online, thousands of followers on Facebook send in their love with thoughtful comments.
Cindy started a Facebook page called Macy’s Journey as part of a fundraiser for the teenager’s hospital care. She will be sorely missed, but her memory is still alive in her letters.
Dealing with the loss of a child
Losing a child is never easy. Parents are usually hit the hardest by grief and despair. There is no worse feeling than having to bury your own child. Still, the situation can be managed and surviving relatives may find the loss easier to bear.
It is always advisable to seek grief counseling. And sometimes, having conversations or even counseling sessions with other people who are experiencing grief can help. Shared experiences have a way of reducing the burden of loss. Counseling may not return lost family members, but it can ease the pain. It also helps boost resolve to keep living.