PSYCHOLOGY

5 Signs You Need To Be Stricter With Your Children

Date February 19, 2018

If you have ever encountered a situation in which your children started to demand something or showed a rude attitude to a stranger, you'll probably remember your embarrassment, shame, and confusion. Of course, you may think kids will be kids. We don't always take everything seriously and we believe our kids will grow up and change their bad behavior. But you should keep in mind that your kid's rude behavior is the first alarm bell regarding the unsightly traits of their character. If you observe some of the following signs, it's high time you reviewed the way you discipline your child.

1. Blames others

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If your child doesn't want to, or is unable to, take responsibility for their actions, they will try to put the blame on others.

Recommendations:

Instead of fighting children and insisting that they admit all of their bad behavior, you should instead teach them about their responsibilities. You can do this by assigning a simple household chore to your kid or talking to them about what they are in charge of.

Specialists recommend making responsibility tangible. In particular, you can make a sign or leave a note for your kid. For example:

Hi, dear son! This is just a reminder: Before watching a movie, make sure you hang your clothes in the closet, wash the dishes, and feed and walk the dog.

Thanks.

Hugs, Mom.

Children are generally very curious. It is highly possible that your child will read your note, complete the tasks, and even write back a note.

2. Doesn't feel guilty

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A lack of the feeling of guilt can have different causes. Very often, even when your child knows they have done something bad, they may refuse to admit their guilt and deny their involvement in an incident. Some children don't feel guilty at all; therefore, they refuse to take responsibility for their actions. They don't feel guilt as they don't realize they did anything wrong.

For the sake of justice, we should note that there are kids who feel guilty all the time. Of course, this is not a good tendency either, but we will not touch upon this topic in our article.

Recommendations:

Draw your child's attention to the consequences of their actions. If a child doesn't feel guilty, they should lose something when they do something wrong. This does not mean you have to blame your child or make them feel miserable. Your task is to teach them the difference between right and wrong, good and evil. You should help your child to realize that they have to take responsibility for their own choices.

3. Lacks kindness and empathy

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As humans, we feel the need to demonstrate kindness and empathy. No matter how pathetic this may sound to some people, we only have each other on this planet. So it is extremely important that we stick together and help the needy.

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Recommendations:

Teach your child to serve others. Get them involved in a project like serving somebody in the neighborhood, cleaning a public area, a garden, or a park. You can ask your child to visit a retirement home, to clean a sibling's room, or wash the dishes for somebody else.

4. Doesn't care about others

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If your child doesn't care about others, especially family members, you have a problem on your hand. Most probably, this is the first step to selfish behavior. Your child has to learn that everybody else is just as important as they are.

Recommendations:

Again, you can try teaching your child to serve. You can show them the benefits of service through your own example. Try to show through your own behavior that it is important to be attentive and caring to humans who can't always help themselves and need other people's help and assistance once in a while.

5. Entitlement

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Entitlement is a struggle for a person raised in a loving family. Parents want to take care of their children so much that they not only provide for their needs but also for all their wants. If a child expects to receive all the time and forgets about gratitude, you have a big problem. In the future, your child will most probably be act entitled towards other people as well.

Recommendations:

Teach your child to be grateful for people's good actions towards them. Ask them to express their gratitude to people or help them write thank-you notes. Don't forget to thank your child and tell them how good it feels to hear words of gratitude.

These are just a few situations from the lives of our little treasures. It goes without saying that the process of growing up is quite complicated. Be attentive to your children and you will manage to overcome even the hardest situation. Teach your kids to be more compassionate and caring and to serve others.

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The material in this article is for informational purposes only and does not replace the advice of a certified specialist.

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