PSYCHOLOGY

Woman Found A Revealing Photo Of Another Woman In Her Husband's Phone And Asks For Advice

Date July 15, 2019 12:20

Adultery is considered one of the most common causes of divorce. Not every woman can forgive betrayal. And even the ones that come to such a decision consider this experience traumatic. Meanwhile, infidelity in marriage happens much more often than we think. According to the data, every 4th man and every 8th woman are cheating. How do they live with it?

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The heroine of our story has been married for many years. She has been raising a one-year-old child and considered everyday quarrels with her husband normal. She also got used to the absolute absence of a romantic mood in the relationship. The situation was common: she had to stay at home, while he was meeting his friends after work. Sometimes, such nights out lasted until the early hours of the morning, and the man’s clothes sometimes smelled of female perfume.

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It all ended with a simple phone. The wife saw love correspondence and revealing photos of another woman on her husband’s smartphone. The man stopped inventing absurd excuses and admitted everything, but he didn’t want to ruin his family. After a while, the couple broke up but soon reunited again. The result isn’t the most joyful: the man lost his wife’s trust, she was tormented by suspicion and bad thoughts, and the lover hinted that she was ready to do everything all over again. What should you do in such a difficult situation?

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It is difficult to make happy a woman who was betrayed once. Everything that she has once created breaks down, and it isn’t important how long the wrong relationship lasted. After a betrayal, it is necessary to concentrate on yourself, to let emotions and impulses calm down a little. Calmness is the best ally in making any decision. But what should you do next?

1. Create a comfortable environment for yourself

Being in the same house with a traitor is an ordeal. Make sure you have a place to go if it is necessary to leave for a while.

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2. Try to talk honestly

Don’t be afraid to ask questions – it is necessary to understand the reasons and assess the situation. It is important not to blame, interrupt, shout, or run away during the discussion, and ask to tell only the truth, whatever it may be. Remember: only facts are important, and not anyone's speculations or experience of other couples.

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3. Don’t blame anyone

You shouldn’t shift all responsibly to a man or his lover, or to look for the causes of what happened in yourself. Shouts and insults don’t contribute to understanding. No one can be held responsible for another person’s choice.

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4. Find support

No need to keep everything to yourself. You need to let your emotions out: ask someone in your environment to listen and not to judge or escalate the situation with comments.

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5. Avoid revenge

Do not try to “hit” in revenge to provoke a conflict. Pain makes you attack, verbally, or physically. But any similar action can cause an adverse response.

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6. Don’t abuse social networks

Talking to close people is one thing. Changing the status, and posting sad posts or images on social networks is a different story.

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7. Think about the future

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Restoring lost confidence is difficult. But if both partners are ready to move in the same direction and not repeat the mistakes of the past, it is worth keeping this in mind. Not only to continue living: it is also essential for a woman to forgive and find the strength not to reproach or manipulate.

It usually takes on average from 6 to 12 months to recover from betrayal. Sometimes, you may need a psychologist’s help. It is quite possible to continue living together, but only when your feelings and aspirations coincide. And what would you advise our heroine? Share your thoughts in the comments.


The material in this article is for informational purposes only and does not replace the advice of a certified specialist.