PSYCHOLOGY

Psychologist's Opinion: If A Wife Has Found A Lover, It's Her Husband's Fault

Date May 24, 2019 17:13

When a couple starts to have problems and distrust in their relationship, each of the partners wants to accuse the other one. One of the most common reasons is the infidelity by one party.

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While earlier men were mostly the ones accused of cheating, recent studies have shown that 40-45% of women are caught having an affair. And though the couples still stay together 70% of the time, even after they find out about their partner's affair, trust disappears.

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When you look into the reasons for divorces where the woman's affair was discovered, psychologists are faced with a problem: the husband claims that he's a victim and that his trust was betrayed. But is he really that innocent?

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Experts stand united in their opinion: there can't be any victims in the couple as both partners are involved in whatever is going on between them. Both the good and the bad. That's why, if the husband or wife start having an affair, it means that he/she doesn't experience the feelings and emotions they need with their partner.

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So what is the solution in this situation? Strange as it may seem, it lies in normal, everyday communication when both partners speak out about what they're not satisfied with. However, not blaming each other, but using "I statements," such as "I feel bad because of your actions..." and "I felt abandoned when you didn't pick me up..." The lack of trust and heart-to-heart conversations in the relationship are the main reason for cheating.

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We hope that even if you occasionally have some problems in the relationship, you manage to solve them quickly. Share this article with those who are still learning the art of living together.


The material in this article is for informational purposes only and does not replace the advice of a certified specialist.