PSYCHOLOGY

Man’s Arguments Against Starting A Relationship With A Single Mom Gained Wild Traction

Date May 7, 2019 16:43

Now, there are increasingly more issues that are capable of instantly dividing society – well, at least internet users. Earlier we wrote about men who told why they’d never date women over size 8, and also about a guy’s list of requirements for the perfect woman.

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On March 31, 2019, the British celebrated Mother's Day, and this became cause for a fierce debate on social networks regarding one video spread by the media in which video blogger Richard Cooper “warned” men about the “dangers of relationships” with single mothers.

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Being a father himself, he outlined a number of reasons why it could be a bad idea, including emotional inaccessibility of such women, distorted self-image, questionable judgment skills, the ease with which they can break up with you (based on his previous experience), the idea that the universe revolves around them and their children, as well as “financial demands.” Naturally, this could not go unnoticed.

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@Natalie Alexandra Thurlbeck:

He’s right. 
He will be second best and never a priority
The kids will want his money/get his money if the relationship became serious...

@Mike Ordidge:

I fell in love with a single mum, stretch marks and all and I owe her my happiness… I fell in love with her heart, her soul, her gentle nature and I thank my lucky stars that I have her in my life everyday.

@Jackie Newman:

On behalf of single mums, we don’t want you either

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@Regina Holland:

So he doesn't want to be second best to a single mum and her kids. Somebody give the man a mirror, he'll always be the centre of attention then.

@Alwyn Radar:

If you love someone and they love you... it doesn't matter how many kids are about… if you love someone, you love everything they are, own, and do!

The people who attacked Cooper are right from their point of view. But there is the flip side: very few people have taken the trouble to try and understand where this video came from. In the comments to the video on YouTube channel 21 Studios (which, by the way, has been viewed more than 680K times), Richard himself suggested following his earlier video from 2016, in which he explained his point of view, a fragment of which went viral again in 2019.

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It was more of a confession: Cooper shared his personal experience. In a 20-minute monologue, the man explained why dating single moms can be difficult and why some viewers may want to avoid it after watching it.

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When he dated a single mother, he faced her children’s disobedience and bad behavior, financial difficulties, excessive demands, and the fact that the slightest conflict could easily end in a break, cancelling all his efforts. That is, he shared about problems he couldn’t handle himself. The key point in his speech was why relationships with single moms can be hard. Taken out of context, these statements once again provoked a barrage of criticism and hate on both sides of the argument.

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Richard’s partner had two children to whom he became very attached. When she ended the relationship, he felt triple heart-broken because he also lost touch with the two kids. But the commenters chose to not focus on this or the fact that, at the end of the day, it is everyone’s own decision.

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As for the fact that children will always be a single mom’s priority, in his earlier video, Richard made his point clearer. He elaborated that no man can possibly fathom what a woman is going through during pregnancy and childbirth, that’s why there is no one more precious to her than her child. It goes without saying that she will choose her child over anybody, be it the child’s father or her partner.

There may be difficulties in any relationship, wouldn’t you agree? Perhaps Cooper just met a woman who didn’t appreciate him. They probably weren’t meant to be together from the start. But each of us is entitled to our own opinion. What would you say on this matter?