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“Not For The Money”: Honest Story Of A Woman Who Had Years-Long Affairs With Married Men

Date March 28, 2019 17:07

Since the times when marriage was invented, married men have had mistresses. Some men get tired of the routine and wife always grumpy for having to work as well as raise the kids. An affair is the opposite of that – an adventure. A mistress is always fun and easy going. She always looks gorgeous and doesn’t bother with her problems.

“Not For The Money”: Honest Story Of A Woman Who Had Years-Long Affairs With Married Men

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Other men are unfaithful by nature. No matter how perfect their wife is, sooner or later they will look for something different on the side. Just for a change.

It’s all clear with the men’s reasons. But why do women go for playing the role of a mistress? What drives them? Do they not want a stable relationship built primarily on honesty?

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Journalist Julia Verklova talked to a former mistress and found out why she was comfortable with it.

1. Intimate relationships

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She was raised a prude and since early age was told that intimate relations could only be permissible in marriage. At the age of 18, she was confident that no one would marry a girl who has had a romantic partner. At 21, she realized that it was all nonsense. All her promiscuous friends got married, and then she started looking for a partner. And acquired a taste for it. She chose only married men for secrecy. For all those around her, she remained the same puritan girl.

2. Romance

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She confessed that a relationship with a married man is always nothing short of a holiday – hotel rooms, foreign trips, gifts, and extreme places to be together in private.

I’ve always paid for myself.

– she adds.

And when she saw signs of family life at her lover’s place (diapers, strollers, or cribs), she cherished her way of life even more.

3. Lonely old age

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From her rich life experience, she has drawn a not very comforting conclusion. When a man dies in old age, his wife, daughter, and, possibly, his mother are beside him. When a woman dies, it is only her daughter and, possibly, her mother. The man disappears without a twinge of conscience. She then realized that only men benefit from marriage.

4. Special attitude of a married man

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First, a married man doesn’t bother you all the time, you can have a break from him. Second, since he can’t marry his mistress, he will always feel guilty and, consequently, will try to please her in every possible way.

When the "serial" mistress turned 30, she finally decided she wanted to marry and have children. She has been living with her husband for 5 years and says she doesn’t cheat.

I have no idea if my husband is cheating on me. The wives of my ex-lovers believed that their husbands were faithful to them. And I choose to believe the same.

– she summed up.

And what do you think about this woman’s life story? Share your thoughts in the comments!

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