PSYCHOLOGY

Woman Admitted She Can’t Wait For Her Son To Grow Up And Leave For Good

Date July 18, 2019 12:45

Many people dream of creating a loving environment for their children. But this is not always the case: relations between spouses can get worse over time, and the parents’ emotional unwillingness to stick to their responsibilities and new roles may turn even a wanted child turn into a burden.

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One subscriber shared her story with a popular women’s resource. The girl was a young 24-year-old when she found a nice good job and met a decent young man. 7 days later he introduced her to his parents, and in 2 weeks, asked her hand in marriage. The reason for this haste was the fact that he was dying of cancer but dreamed to experience the joy of fatherhood before passing away.

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Soon they were officially married and expecting a child. The man’s health miraculously got better, while his attitude became unbearable. He started drinking and abusing his wife. And he didn’t want a child anymore.

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She left, and the son became a burden for her. She couldn’t love him. Finally, the mother shared her secret dream with readers: she wants the baby to grow up as fast as possible so that she can send him to a military school to leave her for good.

My son will grow up and will not forgive me for this attitude. And I’m ready for this. We don’t have a mother-child bond. This is some kind of partnership in which he doesn’t bother me, while I let him do what he wants.

Now, for me there’s only work. And a dream of a military school, when I finally become free.

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Readers shared their opinions in the comments.

Maternal feelings take time to develop. You need to understand that you are a God for this young soul, he needs you, you alone!

A sad story.... People love adopted children like their own, and you… don’t love your own son!?

A bad father is half the trouble, an apathetic mother is a tragedy. You just shouldn't have children, from a good or a bad husband.

What a nightmare, so sorry for the innocent kid.

What a load of rubbish, how egocentric you must be to ruin your son’s life.

What is she guilty of? Of doing it out of pity instead of listening to her heart?

Even though everyone understands that a marriage to a person with serious health problems can’t be lasting or cloudless, many people choose this path anyway.

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What are the things to keep in mind?

  1. It may not necessarily affect the relations between the partners if they really love and respect each other.

  2. Even if it seems that you’re not doing anything, your presence and willingness to listen is incredibly valuable.

  3. Don’t assume that it will be easy to accept the inevitable.

  4. Your loved one may begin to fall into denial because of the fear of reality.

  5. It is necessary to find the strength to ask uncomfortable but honest questions.

  6. If a seriously ill person holds on for your sake alone, you will have to find the strength to let him or her go in due time.

  7. People often are tormented by guilt after losing a beloved partner.

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Is it silly on the part of one person to entirely devote one's own life to the other, knowing that this won’t last long? There are many reasons why marriage can turn out a mistake, but true love is definitely not one of them. Sincere feelings make you treasure every minute, and then there’s always hope and a desire to create as many memories as possible.

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Now it doesn’t matter whether the unfortunate mother truly loved her husband or not. Perhaps she will learn to value and respect her son, regardless of who his father turned out to be. But what do you think about this situation and the woman’s revelations?