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After 8 Failed Pregnancies, She Begged Her Husband To Leave. He Refused And Soon Became A Happy Dad

Date May 8, 2019 10:11

Even after getting married, some couples don’t plan to become parents immediately. Nevertheless, the desired baby is always a joyful event, regardless of whether it happens in a year or 10 years from the wedding day. While children appear in some families easily, some try hard and dream desperately of a kid.

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Modern medicine can solve many problems with fertility. In the case of Jayne Hook, however, it was different – she had no difficulty in conceiving. Shortly after the wedding, the woman found out that she was pregnant.

However, the happiness didn’t last long: in the early stages of pregnancy, she lost the baby. It happened in 2004. Jayne and her husband, Steven, didn’t despair. Within a few months, they were preparing to become parents once again. But Hook suffered another miscarriage, and thereafter 5 more due to a rare chromosomal abnormality.

Jayne and Steven didn’t give up: they desperately wanted a child. When the woman reached 34, she became pregnant again, but her daughter Poppy was stillborn on the 30th week. Jane's life was a series of purges, disappointments, and unsuccessful IVF treatments. She begged her husband to leave her, but Steven didn’t even think about it. Luckily, their story is proof that miracles happen. Today they have two beautiful sons, born without any difficulties.

Although approximately 1 out of 6 pregnancies ends up in miscarriage in the early stages, only a few women (about 1%) experience recurring miscarriages one after another. While earlier it was thought that it is necessary to be examined only after the third failed attempt, this is actually not true. Any spontaneous abortion is a reason to look for the cause of what happened.

Only those who have experienced this can imagine the depth of emotional pain. Another mother shared her experience, losing a few children one after another.

  1. Every time it is perceived in a new way even more painfully.
  2. Quarrels with a partner are inevitable.
  3. This happens more often than many are accustomed to believing.
  4. You need to talk about it or at least write down your feelings.
  5. This doesn’t mean you need to stop trying – it's worth it.

Common causes of miscarriages in the early stages are chromosomal abnormalities that prevent the embryo from developing normally, or insufficient production of progesterone. All in all, this isn’t evidence that the parents are to blame in some way.

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A very early miscarriage is easily confused with late menstruation, although the amount of discharge is bigger, including lumps in their composition. Often, miscarriage is accompanied by sharp pains in the lower abdomen and lower back. Also, particular evidence of the pregnancy’s first trimester (morning sickness, etc.) suddenly stop. Nevertheless, if it hasn’t been confirmed (at least by a test), you shouldn’t torment yourself with suspicions and speculation.

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What should women who have suffered from recurring miscarriages know?

  1. This isn’t your partner's fault.
  2. There is no magic cure, but there are different types of treatment.
  3. It isn’t necessary to wait long before trying again if agreed to by the doctor.
  4. A healthy pregnancy is still possible even after a series of recurring miscarriages.
  5. This experience is always traumatic.
  6. Stress has nothing to do with it.
  7. Single miscarriage is a common phenomenon, recurring – isn’t.

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You may happen to lose hope in getting pregnant after several failed attempts. But cases like in Jayne and Steven’s family prove you should never stop trying!


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