PSYCHOLOGY

“I Will Dance On Her Grave”: Woman Confessed She Hates Her Mother. Internet Reaction Wasn’t Long In Coming

Date June 18, 2019 12:40

The relationship between children and parents are often difficult. It is believed that the worst conflict period is in adolescence. At the same time, mature people sometimes feel far from the warmest feelings towards their mothers and fathers.

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There may be several reasons for this:

  • lack of attention and love in childhood;
  • constant interference in their lives and ignorance of any boundaries;
  • excessive custody and unnecessary advice;
  • bad habit of insisting on being always right;
  • lack of confidence in their opinions;
  • attempts to manipulate them and others.

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Of course, conflicts in families are normal. But in some cases, they are so strong and the interests of generations are so different that the expected agreement doesn’t come. Everyone has probably been at least once angry at their mother or father, but not all have gone so far to cross the line of hatred and even talk candidly about it.

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In 2017, on one women’s forum, the participants had a rather acute topic for discussion, which caused a great resonance at the time: the girl admitted that she hated her own mother.

I ask myself a question: does the presence of female genitalia, the biological process of childbirth, feeding, and buying clothes make a person always right?

I’m still dealing with the consequences of the moral damage after communicating with this person. We barely talk, but when she dies, I’ll happily come and dance on her grave. Of course, I’m not sure I will become a great mother when I am pregnant. But I’m just wondering: who invented “she is a mother, she must be respected” and for what reason?

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Some netizens of the resource defended the unknown mother:

Oh, I feel sorry for your future child and you. Your child will also hate you or rather even more.

One of the forum participants, apparently, was surprised by such aggression:

What should a woman do so that her daughter would dance on her grave? If you hate her so much, don’t talk and don’t go to the funeral – you don’t need to sneer.

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At the same time, some people still supported the author:

Dear author, you are right, it happens. Neither old age nor children make a person automatically good.

Author, I understand you. I hated my own for many years. I was jealous of others who have normal mothers who care about them, with whom you can talk, to whom you can go when feeling bad.

Author, you aren’t alone. I have a complicated relationship with my mother. She is selfish and has lived all her life for herself and for the sake of her interests. I was raised by my relatives. BUT the author, whatever the mother is, whatever the resentment of dancing on the grave you might have, I have never thought of that – it’s simply inhumane.

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Relationships are built not only on care but also on communication. When its quantity or quality isn’t enough, they begin to deteriorate. At first, children stop sharing the details of their lives, preferring to build it at a distance. They start to call less and less, not to mention the rare meetings. Soon, negative emotions only increase.

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Parents are different. We don’t choose our moms, but only they determine how relationships with their children develop. Usually, they don’t admit their guilt and don’t understand they have created a toxic atmosphere, warranting the children's disdain. When the conflict reaches its peak, it is almost impossible to turn things back. But wasn’t the author’s position too sharp? What do you think about this? Share your impressions in the comments.