PSYCHOLOGY

“My 16-Year-Old Daughter Wants To Live Separately With Her Boyfriend. Is This The Right Age?”

Date June 18, 2019 17:43

Even though the era when girls got married and gave birth at 14 is already over, some teens still try to grow up faster and live an independent life.

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Of course, it is crucial to give them the chance to make their choices and mistakes sometimes, but you need to understand how conscious their decision is and whether they are ready to be responsible for it.

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Parents who are responsible for the health and well-being of their grown-up children are especially anxious for the children’s desire to live independently. On one internet forum, a woman addressed the users with a question:

My 16-year-old daughter wants to live separately with her boyfriend. Is this the right age to live separately?

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A lot of people were excited to comment on the problem. They reminded the mom that she is still financially and legally responsible for her daughter. Also, they drew her the prospect of becoming a grandmother in a few years, if she would allow her daughter to live together with her boyfriend at such a young age. It would be worth explaining to the teen all the pros and cons of such a choice.

@Steven Panasuk:

Yes, absolutely! You’ll have two grandkids before she is 19, you’ll be the free daycare while she struggles with the welfare system, and trying to get through high school. The boyfriend will get bored and move on to new, more virginal pastures, and your daughter will live in your basement and count on you for food and free babysitting while she tries to fit in with her old friends at the club.

@Christina Baublitz:

You are still legally financially responsible for her so if you wish to pay for all of her bills while she lives with her boyfriend, and to have grandkids before she is 18, then sure go for it and let her leave.

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If children under 18 leave the house on their own, the parents should know that the law is on their side regarding the return of their kids. But not to bring the matter of involving police and social services in finding a child, adults need to figure out the reason for this behavior, find a common language with children, and explain the possible negative consequences. Of course, independence is good, but it must be within reasonable limits.

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Did you have such questions when either you or your children were growing up? Share your experience in the comments.