Psychologists Revealed What Character Trait Can Destroy Any Marriage
November 28, 2018 16:21 By Fabiosa
Imagine that you have discovered the cause of all divorces. Looks like the most valuable knowledge, doesn’t it? Would you do everything possible to eradicate this reason? We think yes. Now, you will learn something very important from this article.
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The main reason for all the divorces may surprise you. Doctor of Psychology John Gottman, who's written a huge number of books about marriage and family, was able to identify what threatens family happiness the most.
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The main reason for the divorce is disrespect!
This is the worst thing that can happen in a relationship. When you consider your soulmate to be full of disadvantages, inferior to you, useless in the household, it means you are about to destroy your own family.
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Another interesting thing is that it manifests itself differently from couple to couple. Someone rolls their eyes upwards during a conversation; others don’t perceive the “nonsense” their partner has just said. Someone doesn’t take the partner’s opinion seriously, while others just feel superior and show it in a non-verbal way. A good synonym for the word disrespect is hostility. It is difficult to imagine true love if one of the partners feels they are better than the other.
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Sometimes one partner or both can start being sarcastic. At the same time, your face always expresses mockery and other ruthless feelings. Sarcasm and criticism are two different things. Criticism is usually said directly, meaning it is always expected. On the other hand, sarcasm is like a stab in the back.
Do you wonder how to get rid of disrespect? It is necessary to cultivate generosity and kindness inside yourself. We love people for the good that they have done, and we hate for the evil that they have caused. The more good you do, subduing your sense of narcissism and pride, the stronger your marriage will be. Apart from that, you should turn off the criticism. Stop condemning your partner and look for or expect anything bad in your partner; try to forgive. Every day before bedtime, imagine all the bad things that you had in the relationship and say in your head the most important words in the relationship:
I forgive you!
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Forgiveness has always been of great potential. At least at the beginning of your relationship, you were in love, so why not to evoke these feelings again? Be ready to support these feelings constantly not to let them decay with time. This is what usually leads to divorce.
Have you ever experienced anything similar? Share your thoughts in the comments.
The material in this article is for informational purposes only and does not replace the advice of a certified specialist.