Loners Aren’t Unhappy. 7 Revelations About People Who Like Being Alone

Date November 23, 2018

Society tags those who prefer to have a few friends and enjoy solitude as exiles. We mistakenly believe that these people are unhappy. But in fact, they never feel lonely!

As a rule, true loners can take pleasure in their own company and are perfectly aware of their strengths and weaknesses. Maybe that’s why they prefer to be alone.

It is quite hard to make friends with such a person, as recluses are very picky about their surroundings. However, psychologists claim that such people possess some very useful features. We can learn a lot from them!

Here are 7 unique personality traits of loners, which make them wonderful individuals!

1. Curiosity

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Although loners prefer to keep to themselves, it doesn’t mean that they are reserved or shy.

If a person knows how to reflect, can observe the Sun, Moon, and stars, enjoying nature’s gifts — he is not helpless. (Epictetus)

Actually, these people are open to new impressions and are constantly looking for new experiences. They just need time to gather their own thoughts before dealing with other people.

2. Loyalty

Unlike those who feel a constant need to be in the center of everybody’s attention, loners do not strive to make themselves known. But as soon as they find a kindred spirit, they become bosom friends or most faithful love-mates.

Love is the principal means of escape from the loneliness which afflicts most men and women throughout the greater part of their lives. (Bertrand Russell)

Once a loner lets you in, he or she will reward you with everything you need. It is true about all the spheres of life: relationship, family, friends, and work!

3. Self-knowledge

Many people are afraid of their feelings, but loners prefer to analyze them. The ability to understand and accept oneself makes them very successful!

A man can be himself only so long as he is alone. (Arthur Schopenhauer)

Being aware of own feelings helps them better understand people around them. Of course, loners also have depressions and fits of anxiety, but they always see them as a chance to improve.

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4. Self-reliance

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Loners don’t panic and escape from problems. They are determined and strong-willed people! Their developed skill of self-reflection allows them to face such situations with dignity.

To live alone is the fate of all great souls. (Arthur Schopenhauer)

Surely, loners can stress out or feel insecure in certain situations, but instead of spending time on distractions, they isolate themselves to recharge.

5. Punctuality

Time is something loners value very highly. They know for sure that it is punctuality that often becomes a key to success in life. That’s why these people are never late, don’t waste other people’s time, and don’t let anybody do the same to them!

Many times I wondered whether my achievement was worth the loneliness I experienced, but now I realize the price was small. (Gordon Parks)

Due to their ability to instantly detect 'time-wasters', loners will never put up with manipulators and ones to 'tick someone off'.

6. Tolerance

People, who can appreciate solitude, know that nobody’s perfect. They realize that everybody has flaws, but they can improve theirs. That’s why they don’t get frustrated, but accept the world for what it is!

A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.  (Arthur Schopenhauer)

Loneliness always helps them realize what they truly need. These people are always honest with themselves and with others. And they are ready to help their close ones improve!

7. Empathy

Loners are capable of great compassion and sympathy. Those who are not afraid of loneliness know how to handle any misfortune.

Loneliness is and always has been the central and inevitable experience of every man. (Thomas Wolfe)

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True loners can find positive aspects of every situation! They always know their strengths. The one who can appreciate being alone understands that he is never going to be lonely. Even if he is left to be the last man on Earth!

Recluses always respect other people’s boundaries and expect the same courtesy. If you cross this invisible line, they will tell you right away. There is a lot to learn from people, who like being alone. For example, to appreciate others first you need to learn to appreciate yourself!

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