Bygones: 5 Old-Fashioned Etiquette Rules That Are No Longer Relevant Today

Date May 17, 2019

We have already written about the essential role that etiquette plays in our modern world. Some of the basic rules have an impact on the impression you make on a potential employer, life partner, or even new acquaintances. The way you behave in society shows the level of your education and upbringing.

However, like many aspects of our life, etiquette has undergone significant changes over the years. Some of its rules are noticeably outdated, although many of us may not even be aware of this. What behavioral standards is it time to forget today?

5 rules of etiquette that have become outdated

1. Men should open doors for women

Gender etiquette has become more neutral. Women no longer need men to open doors for them, especially if he is a stranger. Now the first person who is at the door can open it and hold it for the next, regardless of gender.

2. Don’t put your elbows on the table

This rule made sense when the dishes were served on exquisite tablecloths, and any careless movement could cause the food to fall. Nowadays, elbows on the table aren’t evidence of bad manners and even speak of your interest in conversational partner.

3. Women must be served in restaurants first

As in the case with doors, this rule has become more gender-neutral. Women used to be served first in a clockwise direction, and only then were the dishes brought to men. Luckily, today, this tradition is followed rarely.

4. Wedding gifts must match the guest’s expenses for the celebration

Such an unspoken rule entails a few tactless questions to the hosts of the celebration. Now, gifts are made in the price range suitable to the giver's budget.

5. Men must stand up to greet women

Nowadays, you should meet not only women in this way. When you stand up, body language tells people that you are happy to them. This applies not only to women, but also to important male guests.

What do you think about this? Has modern society correctly abandoned these etiquette rules? Are some of them still relevant today? Share your opinions in the comments!