5 Matrimonial Needs That Should Be Satisfied If You Want To Keep Your Marriage Strong
August 28, 2018 14:20 By Fabiosa
A relationship between a man and a woman is a complex subject, well-studied by countless psychologists. How to keep love alive through life? How to build a harmonious relationship? Why does everything that begins with romance often end with a divorce or break-up? Where does the love go?
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American psychologist Willard F. Harley, Ph.D., wondered about these and many other questions. After many years of research, he came to the conclusion that the true relationship is built on 5 basic principles. Even the best sex won’t hold people together over the years, but building a relationship properly, a couple can preserve something eternal – love.
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Dr. Harley revealed the secret to a happy relationship, and now it is readily available for everyone! So, which needs should be satisfied to make the love last?
1. Need for attention and spending time together
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At the beginning of a relationship, you were virtually inseparable trying to spend every second together. Over the years, the partners tend to spend less time together and the relationship of the two becomes colder. A woman needs her partner to pay attention to her, and a man, in turn, appreciates it when the lady shares his interests. This way, common leisure can kill two birds with one stone!
2. Need for tenderness and intimacy
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Women can’t do without tenderness, and men – without making love, so don’t expect your husband to be affectionate and thoughtful if you regularly deprive him of sex. A relationship is a joint effort of two people, so ladies should be more unfettered in bed and initiate intimacy more often, while men should be more attentive and caring.
3. Need for success and family
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Nature made us, women, so that we prioritize our family and home, while men put social recognition, achievements, and success above everything else. It would seem like totally different values, but even here you can find common ground for building your relationship. By providing comfort and coziness at home, a woman can motivate her man to reach new heights. In turn, this allows him to improve the welfare of the family. However, this scheme, like everything else, works only if both spouses are willing!
4. Need for attractiveness and trust
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As much as we'd like to believe otherwise, first of all, a man needs to find a woman sexually attractive. And what’s paramount for ladies is trust. Men need to remember that the relationship won’t work without trust, and women — don’t forget to look after yourselves. They mainly love with their eyes, after all!
5. Need for home comfort and prosperity
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Again, these components go hand in hand. Nature has made us so that a man needs a home comfort and a warm dinner, and a woman appreciates a person who ensures her calm and stable life. And it has nothing to do with being calculating or thrift; the personal happiness of both depends on such simple but important things.
It seems to us that these five principles are the foundations of a harmonious relationship. Do you agree with Dr. Harley? Tell us in the comments!
The material in this article is for informational purposes only and does not replace the advice of a certified specialist.