Marriage In The 21st Century: It Seems That Fewer People Today Want To Get Married
December 1, 2017 16:26 By Fabiosa
At the risk of saying something which sounds obvious, these days, many things have changed. We know that this phrase relies on certain assumptions and which, on its own, doesn't explain anything about the world. However, it's definitely the case that every era is very different because our way of seeing life transforms. Today, in the 21st century, marriage has lost its value for many people.
Such is the crisis affecting marriage as a social institution, that according to calculations made by sociologist, Philip Cohen from the University of Maryland, by the year 2043 women will no longer want to get married. That sounds like a warning to many.
Of course, our modern era has decreed the death of everything: The death of man, history, art, and now marriage. A break in our understanding of modernity forms part of this current era.
However, despite everything, statistics show that fewer marriages are being celebrated today than in the 1960s. In fact, other values have shifted. For example, the age at which women marry and form a family. In the 1960s, the woman who dared turn 25 without getting engaged was deemed too old by society. Today, a 25-year-old woman refuses to give up or limit her freedom, meaning that women reach the altar later, between the ages of 30 and 35.
In the 21st century, people spend more time living outside of marriage than in it. In fact, together with a reduction in marriages, the number of divorces has also gone up. Today it's no longer necessary for a couple to get married in order to build intimacy. Many begin living together without getting married. On the other hand, female emancipation means that a woman's area of personal fulfillment is no longer confined to love and marriage, as it was in the past, but in the professional area.
Many things change when we get married because our perception of the other person and the relationship varies. Some insist that their loved one stops being a boyfriend or girlfriend and becomes "family". However, it's no longer necessary to reach the altar in order to see your loved one as a family. If you live with your partner, they become your family.
The same thing occurs with the family of your partner. Before, their family would integrate you into their family nucleus once you're married. But now, it has all changed. If you live with your partner in an apartment, spend Sundays with your in-laws and cousins, who says you're not part of the family?
Half a century ago, couples didn't make future plans together until they were married, and once couples did marry, they planned a future where they were both together until death. These days, no romantic relationship gives credence to the phrase, "until death do us part." Instead, partners believe in contingency plans. Therefore, they build a medium to a long-term plan but never leave anything to chance.
Modern relationships also don't need to reach the altar in order to receive everyone's recognition. Who doubts the legitimacy of a relationship just because they aren't married? That seems completely absurd these days.
In fact, what has happened is that we expect other things from marriage and it makes less social sense in today's world. Few of us want to get married to each other at the altar. We prefer to do so in front of the ones we love and seal the union which, albeit imperfect, is human and real.