Techniques For Children To Learn About Who Santa Really Is In The Least Painful Way Possible
The most beautiful time of the year is fast approaching and no parent wants to robe their children of the illusion of a magical Christmas with the characters of Santa Claus, baby Jesus, and the 3 wise men.
We all remember that feeling of sadness and nostalgia when we learned who Santa Claus, baby Jesus, and the 3 wise men really were. At the time, we felt cheated, tricked, and even wish we had never found out, just so we could enjoy every magical moment of Christmas.
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It turns out that it's a hard job for parents to try to hide the true identity of who really puts the gifts under the tree for as long as possible. But there are some techniques you can use for when the time comes to tell your child the truth in the most comforting way:
There's no right age .
It all depends on the child's maturity, when they begin to ask certain questions or the moment when a schoolmate spills the beans during class.
You can accompany the truth with a little fantasy.
If the boy or girl is very young when they learn the truth, you can use a little fantasy to tell them that sometimes Santa Claus asks for parents' help so they can reach all of the houses in time.
If the child is more mature, tell them directly.
If the child is more mature and needs a thorough explanation, we recommend telling them the truth, but with a lot of love and care. Explain that it's a tradition which has been around for generations and which brings happiness to a lot of kids around the world.
Don't worry if the child gets upset.
Your child may get upset or feel tricked. Allow them to express their feelings of hurt and anger. Explain to them once again that it's about a way of experiencing Christmas and it's a tradition that goes along with putting up the Christmas tree, opening gifts, being together with family, and sharing quality time together.
Make them feel part of the group.
Now that your child knows the truth, tell them that they're now part of the group in charge of keeping the secret of Christmas. Explain that their job is now to help make sure that others kids continue to believe in the magic of Santa.
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But if with these tips you still can't find the way to tell your child the truth when they begin asking questions, we leave you with this letter published in a newspaper by a mother who wrote to her daughter, explaining the existence of Santa Claus:
I know you’ve wanted the answer to this question for a long time, and I’ve had to give it careful thought to know just what to say. The answer is no. I am not Santa. There is no one Santa.
I am the person who fills your stockings with presents, though. I also choose and wrap the presents under the tree, the same way my mom did for me, and the same way her mom did for her. (And yes, Daddy helps, too.) I imagine you will someday do this for your children, and I know you will love seeing them run down the stairs on Christmas morning. You will love seeing them sit under the tree, their small faces lit with Christmas lights. This won’t make you Santa, though.
Santa is bigger than any person, and his work has gone on longer than any of us have lived. What he does is simple, but it is powerful. He teaches children how to have belief in something they can’t see or touch. It’s a big job, and it’s an important one.
Throughout your life, you will need this capacity to believe: in yourself, in your friends, in your talents and in your family. You’ll also need to believe in things you can’t measure or even hold in your hand. Here, I am talking about love, that great power that will light your life from the inside out, even during its darkest, coldest moments.
Now you know the secret of how he gets down all those chimneys on Christmas Eve: he has help from all the people whose hearts he’s filled with joy.
Santa is love and magic and hope and happiness. I’m on his team, and now you are, too. I love you and I always will.
Now you have no excuse for not knowing how to tell your little ones when they begin asking questions. The moment will eventually arrive, you just need to know how to confront it with love and tenderness to keep the true Christmas spirit alive.