Your partner makes fun of you, ignores your requests, or controls what you’re wearing? Emotional abuse gradually undermines one's self-confidence. The abusers can convince you that it’s always your fault, so you start to doubt and no longer trust your instincts.
Pay attention to 10 signs of emotional abuse.
1. He mocks you.
Your partner loves to tell funny stories about you in front of your friends. If you oppose, he accuses you of not having a sense of humor or being hypersensitive. You start to think that it’s really just a joke and you overreacted. But bear in mind that if a joke makes others feel uncomfortable, your partner is undermining your authority.
2. You feel guilty all the time.
You feel guilty or embarrassed not knowing what happened? Discipline yourself to avoid giving your partner a reason to criticize you. Ironically, an abuser can even make you feel guilty for his own bad behavior. For example, he can get drunk because you simply annoy him.
3. He "protects" you.
If you leave without your partner, he tells you at what time you should be at home. He asks you to make pictures of who you are with. He tells that he wants to take care of you, but in reality, he does not give you a choice.
4. He makes romantic gestures.
When the couple knows that they have crossed the line and their relationship is in doubt, the abuser makes a romantic surprise for you: an expensive meal, a vacation, or an unexpected gift, like your favorite flowers. The original problem remains unresolved or not even recognized.
5. He insults your intelligence.
Gradually, you get the feeling that things just go wrong. Your partner denies doing or saying something that you clearly remember, but believing him, you begin to doubt yourself. This manipulation form is designed to make you doubt your mental health.
6. He doesn't suport you.
You come home full of emotion because you’ve got a great business opportunity or you’ve been asked to get involved with a project that you are passionate about. But your partner immediately discourages you, telling you that things will go wrong, or that it's a bad idea. So you stop sharing your ideas and successes with him, because you know you will not get any positive reaction. Unfortunately, you don’t have faith in yourself anymore.
7. Compliments are becoming less common.
When you met him, he admired your beauty and intelligence. But over time, compliments have become not so popular anymore and were replaced by negative comments about your appearance, weight, or clothes. And you turn into "too sensitive" again.
8. He has no empathy.
When you talk about a problem at work, for him you are just "exaggerating." You aren’t allowed to talk about your problems as it prevents you from concentrating your time and energy on his personality. Some emotional abusers disappear when his soul mate needs him the most.
9. You're always wrong.
All you used to do is not normal now. Even the things you did six months ago, without telling your partner, are a problem for your relations. You always have to consult him and ask for advice in order to avoid making mistakes.
10. He controls your money.
Controlling your financial status is an abusive partner classic tactic. He can start by giving you advice, helping to resolve debts, or encouraging you to be more responsible. Soon, your partner increases the pressure to "be careful" with money. But somehow, it seems that you always have to cut costs and earn more. Your partner does not consult you before spending money. But if there is something you want, there will be a reason why you will not be able to afford it.
The material in this article is for informational purposes only. The editorial board does not guarantee any results and does not recommend that the reader rely fully on the information provided above.